to a guy its another hole his member gets to explore.... for you it is the most uncomfortable feeling besides labor (for me)...
or is it....
use a water-based lube if using a condom.... if you cannot relax your muscles...talk to your partner about bringing in a toy (i prefer a vibrator.) and either you or him use it on you before and while performing anal...
the distraction will relax you plus the vibrator will do its job...and it turns out to be an amazing orgasm....View Thread