I understand how difficult this is for you, and how you can't simply "walk out" as easily as some people have advised. Have you considered getting some professional help with your relationship? A professional couples therapist can help the two of you to improve your communication so that he understands all of the implications of the things that he says to you. I agree that it would be difficult to have sex with someone who I was always angry at, and I encourage you to trust your instincts and to talk to your husband about the problems that you sense in the marriage. If your relationship and communication improve, I would strongly expect that your physical relationship would change as well. Best of luck to you!View Thread
I like your idea of taking a pregnancy test, and then I definitely recommend going to your doctor to get a check up. It is better to be checked out by a professional, so that if there are no issues to worry about, you can rest easier.View Thread
Sometimes premature ejaculation can be due to anxiety levels, because our brain and body are very connected in the ways that they function and communicate with each other. If you feel that anxiety may be a problem in your life, it could be helpful to seek counseling to deal with that specific issue. Most of all, just don't beat up on yourself for it. It is a problem that many people have, and there are many resources to help you find solutions!View Thread
I am in full support of the other responses, as well as your mission to get to know yourself better instead of finding temporary satifsaction through other people. We teach people how to treat us, and as you separate yourself from the men who are only interested in sex, and surround yourself with people who value you for who you truly are, you will find that your level of joy and satisfaction in all of your relationships will increase.View Thread
I will agree with a number of the posts below that there really is no such thing as normal when it comes to sex. It all comes down to what works for you and your partner. Perhaps it would be helpful misunderstood6 if you could tell us why you're asking the question.View Thread
You are definitely not alone, and difficulty orgasming is a more common phenomena than many people would like to admit.
That being said, this is something that is completely changeable. I'm wondering whether you've been to a medical doctor -- there can be physical realities that may be infringing on your ability to orgasm. Once you've visited a medical doctor, if there's no obvious physical problem I would then recommend seeing a sex therapist who is trained in dealing with this and similar issues. The most comprehensive resource to find a sex therapist is http://www.aasect.org/directory.asp .View Thread