I am 69 and had been taking testosterone for low T for about 4 years. My wife, 67, also takes T & E. When I was taking T, I felt great, lots of energy and high libido — like in my 20s. (Before I started taking T I was having some ED issues also.) Since my wife was also taking T, our sex life was like our honeymoon, great. Late last year my PSA spiked. Although I do not have cancer, my MD took me off T, at least until my PSA goes back down. I was worried about my libido and ED returning. Good news, my wife still has her high libido, and I am responding very well. The biggest change is that she initiates sex more than me, and that really turns me on. So, if you have a partner who you are attracted to, and she is interested in a good sex life, your libido will return. Chances are you will respond, and if there are some ED issues, your Viagra will do the job. View Thread
We live in the country and are surrounded by woods and have a wood fence around our pool, so swimming in the nude is almost risk-free. Unless we have company, my wife and I never wear anything in the pool. It is really a great feeling. Yes, we do mess around and have sex in the pool once in a while — hey, when it is up use it! We are both in our upper 60s. View Thread
Here is what I believe"026 If both parties grow up with a healthy and positive attitude about sex, are caring and attentive in their sex lives, then the changes throughout life will be accommodated. Yes, there will be hormonal changes, injuries and the like, but if the attitude about sex is positive, you will have a satisfying sex life. If one party grows up with a negative attitude about sex, like "sex is something you have to put up with", then sex will go away with age. I really don't believe there is much you can do if a partner's upbringing is negative about sex. View Thread
My wife and I are in our upper 60s and our sex lives are great. We both believe that sexual intimacy is very important in a loving marriage. So much of sex is in your brain, your attitudes, your beliefs, etc. There is also a physical component. We consider ourselves very lucky as we are in love, healthy, fit and active. We are retired but keep very busy with hobbies and volunteer work, but we always make sure we reserve time for sex.
We don't have fast sex, we usually take an hour or more as it takes a long time for my wife to orgasm. I love foreplay and we take our time. I like to lightly caress her body and see and feel her respond. Yes, her breasts still do swell and tighten and her nipples get very erect. Her heavy breathing and body responses are a turn on for me too. When I move down and find her clitoris erect and her vagina very wet, she is super turned on and wants me to enter her and climax. Like most women, she doesn't orgasm from intercourse, but she likes intercourse — it is like a continuation of foreplay. (She likes me to climax first because her orgasms are very intense and she can't take me while she is in the midst of her orgasm.) After I climax I try to keep her at a plateau while I catch my breath. Then I take her to orgasm by fingers, mouth or toys. Her orgasms are like a 10.0 earthquake, and her skin is so sensitive she cannot be touched anywhere. After a minute or so she starts to "come down" and then gets another, what I call "aftershocks". This goes on for up to 10 minutes and then we can cuddle and doze off in each other's arms.
We have sex 2 to 3 times a week. We usually have a Sunday afternoon date in bed, a Wednesday morning wake-up sex session, and any other time the mood strikes us. Like yesterday, I woke up at 4:30 to go to the bathroom and when I got back to bed I wasn't sleepy. I started lightly caressing her and in a couple of minutes she was breathing heavily and very welcoming. At about 5:30 we went back to sleep in each other's arms. She was smiling sensually all day.
We always had a great sex life, and things did slow down a bit 4-5 years ago. My wife was concerned because she wasn't initiating sex quite as often as me. Then she saw an Oprah series on bio-identical hormone replacement. It is not only for sex, but for energy, aches and pains, and all that getting older stuff. She tried it, liked it, and then we both started treatments. It is great! You have more energy, the aches & pains of an active life are gone, and your libido goes back to where it was in your 30s.
The bottom line for us is, you can do things to "stay young" and sex is a vital part of staying young and in love.
About 4 years ago my wife heard about pellet inserts of testosterone for women and men. We are in our upper 60s so we thought we would give them a try. Women get testosterone and a little estrogen and men get only testosterone.
We are completely satisfied with the results. Her aches & pains are gone, she has more energy, we did lose weight, and her sex drive improved dramatically. She also lubricates rapidly and orgasms more easily. The same goes for me, as I feel like I am in my 30s again!
Everyone is different but it is something to look into. View Thread
Depending on your age there can be many factors, such as low "T", medications, illness, etc. The first time he can't get an erection will have profound effect on the future. From then on he will fear a repeat and this performance anxiety will be his number one fear. It will also cause him to not get an erection and avoid sex. He needs to talk to his MD and be frank. He may need some testosterone and some ED meds — just in case. My MD gave me some to have "just in case", and that has a great effect putting aside the anxiety. View Thread
You could very well be low "T". I am in my upper 60's and am getting treatment for low "T" and the results are great. The doctor put my "T" up to where it was in my 30's and my desire and performance is at that level too. My wife loves it.View Thread
Yes, could be high "T": I love a large clitoris! My wife's clitoris engorges when excited and I love it! I like giving her oral and a large clitoris is wonderful to run my tougue around, and suck on! She doesn't complain either........View Thread
I hate to see sex as viewed as a duty. Hopefully there is a connection between a husband and wife that is stronger than that. If not, they shouldn't be married. Sex/desire/attraction between two people really is the glue that holds a marriage together. That being gone, trouble is ahead. Sorry.View Thread
This is such a sad situation, and probably many women feel the same. I believe there are three main factors that are the root cause. 1. The social environment in which girls are raised — sex is bad. These early lessons/feelings are engrained in the subconscious forever. 2. Hormones. Hormone levels change and can be a huge factor in a women's sexual attitude, especially during/after menopause. 3. Inattentive lovers. A partner who doesn't satisfy his lover can make sexual contact uninviting. If you care about your marriage, you do need to take action. Get your hormones checked, talk to your husband, and enter into marriage/sex counseling together. Intimacy is a key to a happy marriage, and lack of it leads to breakup. View Thread