Let me give a perspective from an older generation. I grew up in the 50s-60s and have had sex with 9 different women. I had three one-night stands, four sex on first dates, and two sex after first dates. All four sex on first date women lasted a few weeks to a couple of months before I lost interest. I dated them only for the sex and I had no love feelings. The two women I had sex after the first dates I married. Wife #1, now deceased, and I were married 26 years. Wife #2 and I are still married after wonderful 17 years. I also dated a few women in college with whom I didn't have sex, but those dating experiences did not progress and ended. Bottom line for me: You really need to have a first date without sex so you can focus on each other and find out who you are without the emotions of sex interfering. View Thread
I think a mature man or woman should be true to themselves. (Not teens) If you are a person who believes sex is important in your life and/or relationship, then you should act accordingly. If you don't like sex, don't have sex. If you like sex, have sex. When I met my wife it was love at first date. We were mature (40s) and I was totally won over. I told myself I would not pressure her for anything, she was too important to me. Well, five days later she invited me to stay the night and wow, talk about a night to remember.... What did I think the next morning as I was driving home to change and go to work? Well, first it was WOW, and second it was how am I going to stay awake at work.... To make a long story short, we are heading toward 20 years of marriage and it is still like a honeymoon. I have to say that you should be true to yourself, if you like sex, then go for it. If you don't, don't. You need to find a man who is compatable with you and your desires. (You also have kids to consider.) No easy answer, but don't play games.View Thread
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