If she enjoys using the toys, offer to use them at the same time while having sex. My wife has a small but powerful vibrator she uses to stimulate her clitoris. During sex, this gives her some very powerful orgasms.View Thread
I'm curious to know more information. Has your entire marriage been this way? Was she always this "cold?" Were things better at one time? Does she seem more distant? Did she experience any medical issues recently?
Need more information really, but going that long without sex is not normal.View Thread
From another male perspective, if you're getting a feeling like you're going to pee just before orgasm, it may very well be you're experiencing, or close to experiencing, a G-spot orgasm. Some women, when they have a g-spot orgasm, say they feel like they're going to pee when in fact they may actually be a "squirter". It's basically female ejaculation. Some women can experience it, others won't. My advice would be to do one of two things. One, go with the flow (no pun intended) next time you start to experience it. Let your boyfriend know what may happen. He may actually really enjoy it himself. The other option is to try and bring yourself to orgasm by yourself so you can experience the feelings without anyone else around. This lets you become more familiar with the feelings and what is going on. You might also do a search on the communities (or Google) on female ejaculation to see if what you're experiencing is the same as what other women may or do experience.View Thread
Anti-depressants can be a big libido killer. Have you tried talking with your doctor about this to see if there are medications that won't affect your sex drive as much? Or maybe cutting back/stopping your medication?View Thread
Assuming your relationship was good prior to your son's births, it's possible your husbands "view" of you has changed. It's not uncommon for husbands to look at their wives as "mothers" and not "lovers" after the birth of a child, especially the first one.
And understand, it's a huge adjustment for both of you. Not only does he need to be sure you're taken care, he now has to make sure his son is taken care of.
Have you actually sat him down and told him how you're feeling? Have you suggested a "date night" even if it's for a couple of hours? Do you have family nearby who could watch your son for a couple of hours or even overnight?View Thread
You said early on you two would have sex every day or every other day then it's apparently tapered down. This isn't that uncommon in relationships. People tend to grow out of that "infatuation" stage. My wife and I had sex every chance we had when we started dating. Now we'll go days without sex. It's just a normal process.View Thread
You might get a myriad of answers to this. Some will say it's harmful, some say it's harmless. Some will tell you the rectum is not designed for sex and you shouldn't have anal sex, others will tell you it's a wonderful experience.
Personally, I agree with georgiagail. If the proper steps are taken and copious amounts of lubrication used, anal sex can be very exciting for both partners.View Thread