Absolutely normal! Just like the other two men were saying, you need to find what excites you, and makes you orgasm. Then, you can help your partner help you come!
I do not wish to brag, but I have had intercourse with several different ladies, and they were all different in what made them explode! Some needed direct (oral) stimulation, some needed nothing but straight missionary position sex to come! One, could only come when on top. You see? You are the one who needs to find out what it is that will get you there?!
Once you know what THAT is, then you can guide your partner(s) to what works for you!
I have had e.d. since I was in my mid twenties. Jeep accident while in Korea. Short story, I have nerve damage. I was married at the time, and I did sorta what your hubby is doing, which is nothing! Or, worse, I would pick fights with her just to stay on the couch. I regret it today, but its water under the bridge! If only I knew then what I know now!!! Hey, there is this lil blue pill, not for you, hey there is this other pill. One of them should work! I know, it is the Levitra for me!!! Yes, I was still having some problems with just the pill. I started an exercise regimine, and boy howdy! Plus, I quit smoking those damned cancer sticks, those nasty assed lung cloggers!!! I will never look back! I can actually get wood without the Levitra now! Who knew just what a benefit quitting smoking, and exercising would be? The doctor's, that's who! Theyu kept telling me I would be better, if I would just quit smoking, and my female doc., she says I would get better wood, if I exercised! They were both right!!!!!
I am happy with what I have to do, now! And so is my new squeeze, Kathy!!! Will I ever marry again, for my second time? I.D.K. just yet? I want to adopt a wait and see attitude? Right now, I want to concentrate on my weight training, and get that six pack back, hell i'm only 54!!! I had a nice case going, but that sixer is calling me back, and no, I don't drink much if any, anymore! Not condusive to good health, you know? I eat right, take the skin off my chicken, things like that, and I can see a big improvement!!! I started out slow, and with resistance bands I got for twenty bucks from the local Sporting Goods store. Now, I am at double those bands, with a few dumb bells thrown in. I look pretty amazing for a 54 year old man, if I do say so myself?!!! LOL!!!
I hope you can show your hubby all of these text's? E-mails? no Posts, that's it! I hope you can show him all of these posts, and tell him he can help himself, if he just puts forth a little effort, or? The alternate could be devastating, as in a major coronary, not just a mild heart attack!!!!!! Help him make the right choice!
I used to drive pilot cars around, for the truckers, so I know how busy they can be, I was to! And yet, I manage to do little things while out there, like walk to the local store for things on the road. Walk around the park we were stopped by. Doing little things like that, keeps the blood from pooling in our legs, which is NOT a good thing! Help get him motivated again, tell him you are going to go out and look for an Adonis to take care of you, if he won't even try!!!
I wish you truck loads of luck!!! (Sorry, couldn't resist)!
I started an exercise program, and have had better erections at night, than I have had in a very long time, and I can even get wood thinking about it. The only prob I still have is, the erection all by itself, will not last to conclusion without my Levitra. I have come close, but each time I deflate prior to ejackulation.
One day, who knows, I might just get there again? But with nerve damage, its hard to say?!
Oh, and I was not over-weight when I started exercising. Just that I had heard it helps to be in shape, and I have to agree with that, 1000%!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PORN??? Don't watch that, and then do a woman! Actually, there is no right, or wrong way for each different woman. You have to either ask them, or start experimenting?! I never ask, I do what I know most like, and then experiment. If they don't like it, or can't take it, they will move your head outta there!!!
The whole point to this is, getting a woman to orgasm. Some, most do not orgasm with just sex, most need a more direct approach.
Like Sluggo says, practice, practice, practice, cause practice makes perfect!!!
THAT, is going to be the hardest part, making it right, in YOUR head! That's tough to do. I don't condone his cheating, I think he should be put out to pasture?! You do NOT deserve what he is dishing out!!! You sound like an intelligent, kind, caring individual you are going to have a very hard time accepting this!
The first thing you need to do is, get a third person!!! You will need a witness! Lay down the law on his cheating ass! Sorry, my ex-wife cheated on me, I know how you feel!!! Your trust has been shattered. So, put everything you said, in writing, I would even get a lawyer involved. He could tell you how to make everything legally binding. Just in case, you know?
Counseling, lots and lots of counseling!!! That can help you accept what is your new lot. How sad! I am almost crying for you, I can feel your sadness in your words! At least you have come to an acceptance. That helps. I feel its so sad you cannot even confide in a friend? As you said, you don't want anyone to know you are not a loving, caring family? So, if not a friend, find a counselor you can be comfortable with, and let him help YOU!
I know this will be very hard for you, but please try to move on, sexually?! You need not suffer that, also?! You are still a WOMAN, right? You still have sexual desires, right? Don't deny yourself for him, piss on him, he started this!!! You GO girl!!! As that saying goes? Go, get out there and live!!!
I wish YOU all the best life has to offer!!! Good luck!
I'm with Sluggo on this one! Our poop stinks, I am NOT going to eat it, so why would I expect my G.F. or anyone for that matter, to eat poop? No way/No how/not gonna happen!!!
Good grief people, are you serious? ATM? Come on, get real! There is no woman on this planet, or any other, that could actually want to put a poopy penis in her mouth!!! I don't care how long you wash that booty! Even if you did use a toilet swab, you did NOT get all the poop outta that booty!!! Do NOT think you did, you did NOT!!!
People need to wake up! Just because you seen this dumb stuff on film, doesn't mean YOU need to rush home and do it yourself!!! Stop emulating idiots and morons, think for yourself just this one time!!!
A couple years past my divorce, I hooked up with this really nice, younger woman. She did this to me when we were having oral sex. Well, I should say, I was giving her, oral sex. And as she was squirting all over my face, she happened to contract and she saw my face. I could see the horror on her face. I have never seen anyone move that fast, but as soon as she saw me, she was gone, into the bathroom!!!
I finally coaxed her out, that took almost an hour. And I sat her down on the couch, and asked her why the reaction? She said she thought she was peeing on me? I told her that was nonsense. She was just squirting on me. She still freaked out about that, she said no one before me, had ever made her do that! I told her, thank you for the privilege!!! After some lengthy explaining, she finally got it. After that, she was such a fine squirter!!!
Relax, it is perfectly normal for some women to squirt, or gush, or just have a plain ole orgasm!!! Its all good!!!