Tell your fiancé to lick it up, and stop worrying! Yes, I said LICK! I have gotten more women to orgasm by licking and fingering the clitoris more so than any other sexual position I could think of!!!
Have your fiancé start the love making session with licking and sucking first, if you like, try the 69 position? But, it is more difficult to concentrate on your own body, while trying to please someone else at the same time! So, I prefer the one at a time rule! He should start, and after you have an orgasm, then you should roll him over, and give it to him!!!
You are saying two different things here. You say you are both sexual beings, but then again, you say he masturbates too much, and therefore, he takes too long to get of with regular sexual intercourse? I thought you said you were a sexual person? A sexual person would enjoy the longer sessions, don't you think? Well, I can only say this, if he is hurting you, then you have to tell him! If he is not hurting you, only taking his time enjoying your love, then have some lube handy, and also try different positions?
You are a part of a duo, one person should not dictate how long your lovemaking should take! This is on both of you to tell your partner your likes, and dislikes in bed! Don't be shy, this guy has seen you naked already, so what's the problem? Sit him down on the couch, and have an open, honest talk about your sexual life together. How you like to be pleased, and how long you can handle, things like that, then he has to tell you, also! It is after all, a partnership you have going, 50/50 and all that, right? Right! Now, go talk to him!!!
I'm going to control myself, and not jump all over you for cheating! It is wrong, no matter what excuse you feed to yourself? The one smart thing you could have done, is separate yourself from your husband!
Ok, so you cheated with a guy you KNEW had HPV, and yet you never asked him to use protection? WHY??? Why would you take such a risk? For love? Bah humbug!!! No one that loved you, would ever let you do that without protection!!! So, this guy intentionally (Maybe) gave you a deadly disease? That could get him a felony! Attempted murder, i do believe? I have heard this before!
So, again, WHY??? You are MARRIED!!! For better, for worse, and all that!!! You should have told your hubby first, then, if he wanted, HE could have separated himself from you! It would have been his choice, then?! Now, you have left him no choice!
You have to do the right thing here, TELL HIM!!! You MUST tell him prior to having sex with him, and you alredy know that!
Hi, from what little you have provided, I have to go with what billnjenn said, not enough info!!!
If you want some help, you have to provide some details of his, and your own behaviors? Just stating these few things, does not make it very easy to help you?!
You are having "another" child with this man, or is it manchild? Yet you say he does not turn you on, anymore? How does that work out? If you didn't like him, or he doesn't like you, why have any children together?
I'm sorry, but you haven't provided near enough info to go on?
Is this a medical condition, or one brought about by herself, or, maybe even you? Have you experimented with any toys? How long do you give to turning her on, before you actually have sexual intercourse??? It may be your wife herself? She may be afraid to orgasm? It is probably subconscious? She may need to see a sex counselor?
Most times, when aroused, the vagina can indeed look this way! This does not mean she is cheating?! If you have this much doubt in her now, how are you going to feel a year from now, or maybe five years?
You lack trust. This woman is with you, not these other guys, right? Well then, why can't you trust her? Has she shown you any reason to doubt her fidelity? So she's late? A lot of working women will tend to be late, more times than not, probably? Especially in this economy?! Right?
You need to relax, your paranoia is making you think this way! Communication is the way to go here, like always?! Ask her, maybe as you sit watching tv? Turn it off, and ask her to have an open, honest talk?! Then, you need to ask specific questions, don't beat around the bush! Then, you must listen to her! As she must listen to you! This is a partnership, and if you can't have frank conversations, your 50/50 partnership is going to start lisping to one side, then, it will eventually sink?!
I think, in your case, you might benefit from a counselor? Either individually, or as a couple, preferably as a couple?! A counselor can help you see things differently, and guide you down a better path?!!!
I hope some of this might help, if not, I hope there are more posters than I?!