I'm going to control myself, and not jump all over you for cheating! It is wrong, no matter what excuse you feed to yourself? The one smart thing you could have done, is separate yourself from your husband!
Ok, so you cheated with a guy you KNEW had HPV, and yet you never asked him to use protection? WHY??? Why would you take such a risk? For love? Bah humbug!!! No one that loved you, would ever let you do that without protection!!! So, this guy intentionally (Maybe) gave you a deadly disease? That could get him a felony! Attempted murder, i do believe? I have heard this before!
So, again, WHY??? You are MARRIED!!! For better, for worse, and all that!!! You should have told your hubby first, then, if he wanted, HE could have separated himself from you! It would have been his choice, then?! Now, you have left him no choice!
You have to do the right thing here, TELL HIM!!! You MUST tell him prior to having sex with him, and you alredy know that!
Hi, from what little you have provided, I have to go with what billnjenn said, not enough info!!!
If you want some help, you have to provide some details of his, and your own behaviors? Just stating these few things, does not make it very easy to help you?!
You are having "another" child with this man, or is it manchild? Yet you say he does not turn you on, anymore? How does that work out? If you didn't like him, or he doesn't like you, why have any children together?
I'm sorry, but you haven't provided near enough info to go on?
Is this a medical condition, or one brought about by herself, or, maybe even you? Have you experimented with any toys? How long do you give to turning her on, before you actually have sexual intercourse??? It may be your wife herself? She may be afraid to orgasm? It is probably subconscious? She may need to see a sex counselor?
Most times, when aroused, the vagina can indeed look this way! This does not mean she is cheating?! If you have this much doubt in her now, how are you going to feel a year from now, or maybe five years?
You lack trust. This woman is with you, not these other guys, right? Well then, why can't you trust her? Has she shown you any reason to doubt her fidelity? So she's late? A lot of working women will tend to be late, more times than not, probably? Especially in this economy?! Right?
You need to relax, your paranoia is making you think this way! Communication is the way to go here, like always?! Ask her, maybe as you sit watching tv? Turn it off, and ask her to have an open, honest talk?! Then, you need to ask specific questions, don't beat around the bush! Then, you must listen to her! As she must listen to you! This is a partnership, and if you can't have frank conversations, your 50/50 partnership is going to start lisping to one side, then, it will eventually sink?!
I think, in your case, you might benefit from a counselor? Either individually, or as a couple, preferably as a couple?! A counselor can help you see things differently, and guide you down a better path?!!!
I hope some of this might help, if not, I hope there are more posters than I?!
Take charge, sit on it! If that doesn't do it for you, then use a vibrator, a dildo, anything you like? Make yourself more responsible for the big o! Actually, you should make your hubby do some work!!! Make him take his time, and give you lots of foreplay! I'm guessing your hubby doesn't know how to have intercourse with a woman? Perhaps he is nieve??? He probably could use a sex coach?
Relax, us boys do things like that! We experiment! We explore new worlds, so to speak? Relax, its growing pains, and nothing more, maybe? Had you stated what the problem was, maybe someone here could have helped you?
There are some guys here, and we could probably tell you things that would curl your hair?! Until we have more information, we really cannot help!!!
I'm with Nowhard on this! You need to see your doctor, or gynecologist as soon as possible! Something is amiss when one feels pain, right? So, get over there, tell them the problem, and hopefully, they can help you?!
Good luck to you!!!
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