I am curious as to how porn would turn you on? I find it interesting that you dont want anything done to you thats done in porn. (Porn being more extreme and over the top) Me myself love sex. I love it. But I hate porn. Porn disgust me. I dont want to watch other people have sex. But more than anything I dont want my man lusting over other women that look nothing like me, who I think of as "slutty" or "whores". Call me old fashion but I want to be the only one to turn my man on and please him. Thats another post... I just find it interesting.View Thread
Any time you come in contact with blood you are at risk. But I am confused... you stated in your OP that this was your girl, so I assume your girlfriend. Do you think she has a disease or STD? Is this a new relationship and you have not had sex yet? The blood could either be from her getting ready to start her cycle or just ending it, or possibly from the friction of your finger for that amount of time. There is only one way to check and see if anything was trasmitted to you tho.View Thread
turned on by muscles, not body builder type, but big. Love big muscles in the neck shoulder and chest area. My sexy bf has all of that and does what I call the tittie dance lol love to watch him pop those chest muscles mm mmmm
This attitude I have towards this being odd to you, is flipped for me. It is hard for me to understand why you or anyone else in a serious relationship would turn towards another person for sexual gratification. Especially when the sexual needs are being met. (I understand in your situation they may not be) I did like tmlmtlrl analogy of the cleaning lady, even tho it didnt seem to me like you fully understood the concept. So my thing is if I am willing to do anything that pleases my man, why would he feel the need to look upon another woman for that fulfilment? I am open and willing to try new things. I do not reject him. So in my mind the need or want for him to look at another womans body, means mine is not good enough. I do not want or need to look upon another mans body for any kind of sexual satisfaction, I find my man very appealing and sexy, he turns me on! I do not think of other men to get aroused, I dont play the "highlight reel" ever, because he does everything for me. Now im not saying that I dont find other men attractive, he knows that I think John Cena is way hott. but never ever have I or will I think of John Cena like that. He is just eye candy and nothing more. If just watching the act its self is the turn on why not make your own? Or introduce it in the bedroom with your partner, why the need to hide stuff? And if I am ready and willing all the time, why is there a need for masturbation? Like I said before he has to keep up with me, he has turned me down. So I completely relate to the OP.
"So while you're masturbating to various naked women you're actually thinking about sex with your wife?"
Actually, that's about true. I generally need some visual stimulus to get aroused (on my own). After that, my mind mostly takes over, and yes, the thing I most fantasize about is good sex with my wife."
I can understand when the needs arent being met...but what the OP is saying is that they are being met.
I try to understand this and I tell myself it is normal, to be honest I wish I did not feel this way...but I cant help it. I'm not saying Im right, and anyone else is wrong, to each their own. But this is how I feel, and think.View Thread
I am with you and have had this happen, I am dealing with it (I think) but it is very very hard, I guess in my mind I do consider it cheating, using another womans body to "get off" to (often wondering i must not be good enough). I personally feel porn should be a couple thing, something that is watched together, not hidden. I do understand why they hide it, as to not hurt us, but being lied to and decieved is much more hurtful and ruins trust. which in a relationship I feel is a HUGE deal. I love the man Im with and I believe he loves me too. All I want is an open honest relationship, I think that is not too much to ask for. But I do tell myself its normal that guys look, and he is not out physically with another woman, and he treats me very very good (which he does). So I convince myself that way. Cause it could be a lot worse. And like Gail said I know for him its not a "Must" thing, just a want to. So I truly believe he is not addicted to it. We also have a very active great sex life. Him trying to keep up with me lol But I have been open and honest as to how I feel about it, and how I am trying to understand what he gets out of it, thinking if understood that I could jump this hurdle in myself. I am working on it. So I wish you all the best! Good luck!View Thread
I am by no way a pro at this, but I am a woman. I just recently read this article, I am 27 weeks preg with my 3rd and his 1st. I want my bf to understand as much as possible to what a pregnancy does to a woman, physically, emotionally, and mentally.
you can read the whole article if you want. But this is very true for most women. "Although it varies from person to person, most sexual issues women experience after pregnancy get better within the first year, according to the Mayo Clinic. That first year with baby is physically intensive. During this time, both partners need to accept they might not be having as much sex as they did before. It's also realistic to think that you may not ever go back to the way it was pre-baby."
It stated "most" and "within the first year" but some need longer, especially if she is breastfeeding.
I hope things get better I understand you are frustrated. But continue trying to understand, not all women are the same as you have found out sexually. So just because your ex may have bounced back after children, or never complained, or denied you when you want to be intimate, doesnt mean the current will be the same way.
Have you tried romancing her? Are you the same after the baby? Do you do all the things tht attracted her to you now as before the baby? You mentioned this is her first, so she prolly doesnt know how to seperate mommy from lover ... yet, but give her time and she will. Go out on a date night, let her know that she still turns you on and you love being intimate with her.