I'm 26, he's 24. Been married 4 years, together 6. We really have a fantastic marriage - a stellar partnership. We have fun together, support one another, etc. The only lacking area in our relationship is our sex life. I am aware that I do have a "higher than average" sex drive for a woman - I think about sex a lot, am easily aroused, and if I had it my way, we'd be intimate every day.
He's had a low sex drive our entire relationship, at least from a couple months after we first had sex to present day. If we mention it to his doctors, they just give him Viagra samples. The ability to have an erection is not the issue, he simply is not interested. It only happens if I initiate, and at least 7 out of 10 times I try to initiate, I get turned down.
I am reaching out because when I bring it up to him, he gets upset and angry. I am also concerned because we are trying to get pregnant, and it isn't happening, probably due to us only having sex a couple times a month (we are in good health, exercise daily and a clean diet).
Thanks so much for taking the time to respond! I have the wherewithal to know not to bring it up in the bedroom, as to avoid further blows to the manhood. When we try to discuss it, I acknowledge that I completely understand how this is upsetting to talk about, etc. etc. But we essentially talk in circles, because as 3point14 said, I really think we are just wired differently.
I was previously making a much larger deal about it. Over the past two years, I've tried to keep it more to myself - I don't try to initiate as much, and I compensate by masturbating more....but I do crave the human intimacy that only comes from having sex with your partner.
A therapist myself, I am open to seeing a sex therapist/sexologist....not sure he would, but maybe even my going by myself would be helpful! What do you guys think?View Thread
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