Let me fill you in a little about myself on said topic. I lost my virginity at a young age, to a total a**. Even though he denied it, my and his best friend were pretty sure I was his first too, It definitely seemed like it! Any way. I had no clue what to do, and I was put on top. So it didn't go very well. Ever since that one time he constantly made fun of me, and put me down for it. So whenever I've been in a situation when I'm suppose to do all the work, I get super embarrassed and scared and freeze up. I've had four partners by the way.
I've recently over come that, and am with someone I can be comfortable with sexually. So I WANT to do the work, I want him to tell me what he does, and doesn't like. Problem is, he can never "get into it" if he's not doing the work. There has been a time or two he has relaxed and just let me do my thing, but usually he interrupts, and can't keep from thrusting. He also has some issues were he won't let me be dominate, like iniciating sex. I wonder if it has to do with that?
Usually if I just put myself on top, he won't say anything and go with it. But the last time I tried that, he stopped and said: oh I was just going to.....
I've tried asking him what he likes, or someone I can do, change, etc. all he says is, "I like everything you do."
I'm at a point of being completely bored with sex. Mostly cause I never get to do anything! And I told him this recently.
I don't know what to do!? We've done dress up, watching porn, all different kinds of positions, locations, toys, etc.View Thread
I request thoughts on said subject. D's reply was irrelevant to my post. And I've already stated that there is more to the relationship than what a lot see, cause I come to this site for advice when this are wrong. I've stated the positive aspects. If no one is willing to take in both sides, not get too personal, etc than this site is no longer useful, and I'll seek advise else where. Thanks any way!View Thread
That's not really fair for you to say, nor is it your place to judge. You only know of our relationship from the few posts I've made. While I was emotional about it. It has been super tough lately, but here at the end our lives have turned and made drastic positive changes. It has made both of us better. I especial have seen a lot of growth and improvement he has made in himself. Losing his friend, almost losing Charli and I, I think really sank in.
Being in love is a lot more than sex. He is older and seems to have a weird thing with being dominated, and has since the day we started dating.View Thread
Ya, I wouldn't be concerned in the fact he watches porn. Hell, watch it with him sometime it's kinda strange that he doesn't have a desire to have anal, yet that's what he chooses to watch? My fiancé doesn't have a desire to, even though I do, and he won't watch anal porns. My guess is maybe he is curious about it, or has a desire to try it out. He may be embarrassed, or think there's no way you'd go for it. I don't think you need to concern yourself over it though. If its something you'd be open to trying, or talking about, bring it up. Don't mention him watching anal porn, just that you yourself are curious about it. You may be him to open up to the idea. If he's just been reluctant to try it cause of the potential mess, try it in the shower!View Thread
I have never gotten off by fingering myself, though I have with a partner. I always have to, like Gail suggested, rub my clit. Try using a couple fingers, get yourself going mentally, and rub back and forth, circles, whatever feels good View Thread
The great thing about sex with a partner, is I find it more enjoyable cause I actually have an emotional connection with them. It's not uncommon for women to need more clitoris stimulation in order to climax. Be open with him while your in the moment. Or as you two sleep together more and more, give him some direction as you go along. And of course if he's doing something you like, make it loud and clear While he's in you, if he's not already, rub your clit and maybe he'll catch on. If not, place his hand there.View Thread
Wow, I don't even know if I would have put up with that situation for that long. If he at least had his own room, that would be better. But sheesh. How he feels about you is irrelevant. It's about how YOU feel about him. You're the one suffering here, from what you've described, he doesn't really care. If you're in love, want to be forever, you need to talk to him. Don't be afraid to be blunt. At some point it needs to be about you, not him (I'm very guilty of trying to make everyone else happy, before myself, I feel your pain). This has been going on for wayyyy too long. Break it down to either s--- changes, or you'll no longer be able to maintain a relationship with him, cause its becoming too unbearable for you. If he can't understand that, or thinks you're wrong in any way, SEE YA walk out that door and find yourself a relay ship you can actually be happy in. One you can actually be together, and share each other in any/every way.View Thread