You're really young, and dealing with a lot right now. You're clearly aware that you're very stressed, and you've stated VERY good reasons to be. You need to consider depression as well. I think you need to ask around and find a good therapist. Sad to say it sounds like your husband has a lot on his plate, and may find trying to help you deal with your problems too overwhelming (hence him brushing you off). See someone you're comfortable talking with, they will be able to give you a professional point of view on your mental state. Hopefully you can relieve some stress by using him/her as an outlet, and getting some insight on how to manage all you have going on right now. And if you haven't heard of it yet, you should see if there's an therpaist in your area who do nuero feedback. I've done this off and on for years, and it really does make a difference in many ways. One of the most beneficial ways for me being the meditative relaxed state it allows you to put yourself in. Great stress reliever.View Thread
Sex was great at first cause there's th excitment of a new partner/relationship and exploring new territory. I personally have a hard time orgasming through intercourse. I enjoy what's happening but can't "get there". Now through masterbation I have NO problems getting off in just a minute or two. Having sex with a partner can be very challenging for a lot a lot of people to reach climax. He shouldn't get pissed off (depending on how you're presenting the situation when trying to talk about it). Sex is a very personal/touching subject though- ESPECIALLY for men. My fiance gets testy when I try to talk about our sex life as well. You just need to be very sensitive when bringing it up. If he gets defensive right off the bat, keep calm and continue to be compassionate.View Thread
There is absolutely nothing wrong with age differences. No matter how big or small the gap, or if the man or woman is older. People mature at different rates/levels. If you meet someone on the same level as you but find out there's a 5, 10, or 20 year age difference, does that change the fact you two work well together/make one another happy? No. To judge someone based on the number of their age is ignorant. It's just as ignorant to judge a COUPLE based on their ages. If it makes someone too uncomfortable to exceed a cetain age gap, that's fine. They don't have to force anything. But why does that make those who can be comfortable with it wrong?View Thread
Thanks for the advice. We do both watch porn, and often times together. Neither of us are shy by any means. I've dressed up, played with myself for him, spent a lot of time on him, all the positions (some rather odd, haha), etc. I recently asked him if there was anything we haven't tried that he'd like to, or any likes and dislikes. Cause people talk about those tings in the beginning, but often times don't touch base down the road. He pretty much shrugged it off. He wants sex so often, even when I'm not saying or hinting I want it, yet he doesn't really talk about things I stated anymore, nor does he really EVER foreplay anymore. I've kinda concluded he's just a typical lazy-selfish lover. This has been going on for more than half our relationship. This being a deal breaker has crossed my mind. I'm sure after the baby comes, and things are able to return back to normal, I'll reach a point where I can't deal with it anymore, and I'll make it fully aware. Either he's going to need to allow me to express myself sexually with a woman, he's going to have to change (which I doubt), or I need to find someone who I'm sexually compatable with. He made me believe he was a certain way (sexually) when we first got together, but than once he had me he stopped being giving. I've had three sexual partners before him, and they all sucked at sex, didn't foreplay, and NEVER went down. So I'm compleely fed up with not getting my way in the bedroom. It's something I've never had, and am not willing to never experience in my lifetime.View Thread
Thanks for all the good advice. I really don't think homosexuality is the issue. We have sex all the time, and its great, but he has to be the one to initiate. I'm 20 and he's 32. He has mentioned maybe having a testosterone drop, cause I complain about the lack of foreplay, but I'd think if that was such an issue, he wouldn't be initiating sex with me at least every other day.View Thread
Thanks. The way I see it though, if I'm going to try to make it work through at least the pregnancy with him, I'm still going to want to get it from somewhere. It's too difficult to cheat, and I wouldn't want to especially with our child in my tummy.
Do I really want to with him? No. But I want to still have sex. My drive is too high to try and go a long time without.
On another note, his comments about my weight have been brought up again, and I was actually able to speak my mind a little better. I told him any ounce of self esteem I did have, I now don't. And that I'm not sure what to think about "us" anymore. He than had read one of his friends Facebook statuses were she was taing about how she took her hubby to the playboy mansion. Even though she's pregnant and "fat" and he was surrounded by naked playboy bunnies, he still only had eyes on/for her. He said it made him feel less of a man. As it should.View Thread
Thank you, you're right. He had one of his brief moments of wanting to please me, and actually foreplaying- etc. So I tried to enjoy it while it lasted, cause I know those moments are few and far between, but it was too hard to really enjoy it.View Thread