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I at one point made a profile on a "hook up" site to maybe find someone who would be willing to please me, vise versa. But It didn't take too long before I deleted it.. It made me feel way too guilty, and even more depressed that I'd even consider that. But if pleasing me is that much of a burden sometimes it seems logical to keep us both happy. (Not that he'd be happy if I cheated on him though).
I've never been in this situation before, and I don't have anyone to talk to about it, other than websites. I've never been able to "let go" sexually. I've always been super self conscious. But I want to be able to learn. I want sex to be a great- care free experience for me. This whole sherrade has made all of my worries and concerns that much worse.. My self esteem has hit an all time low. I know he loves me, but I can't help but feel like I'm not what he wants cause he doesn't desire me sexually like I'd think someone should.
I'm at a loss. And at this point I'd be worse off in life without him. I'd have no one to help me with the baby so I could work or get anything done. So even if I wanted to leave him (which I don't) it would make everything wayyyy harder and more complicated.View Thread
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Is there anyone with maybe some ideas on how I could go about this? I don't want to come off too aggressive, and history repeat itself. Any settle ways I can make my move and ease him into it comfortably?View Thread

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Keep talking about it (even if he gets upset).33% (3)
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Accept that this is your love life, and how it will be.11% (1)
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Leave him.56% (5)
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Get a girlfriend to take care of your needs!0% (0)

He has brought up a time or two that he wonders if his testosterone level has lowered. But wouldn't that make him not desire sexual encounters in general? Rather than him just picking about choosing, and non of what he picks and chooses is pleasing me?
I've tried talking to him in SO many ways, so many different times. He gets super annoyed whenever I bring it up, and says it makes him not want to do it that much more. I've tried just saying things like "now that we've been sleeping together, what are your likes and dislikes? Is there anything you haven't tried that you've liked to?" And he just ignores me. There was one time that he eventually heard me out, felt bad, and said he'd try. But of course that never happened. Like I said, every other time I bring it up, no matter how I try to do it, I get ignored, or he gets all pissy.View Thread
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Keep talking about it (even if he gets upset).33% (3)
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Accept that this is your love life, and how it will be.11% (1)
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Leave him.56% (5)
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Get a girlfriend to take care of your needs!0% (0)

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Keep talking about it (even if he gets upset).33% (3)
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Accept that this is your love life, and how it will be.11% (1)
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Leave him.56% (5)
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Get a girlfriend to take care of your needs!0% (0)

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Keep talking about it (even if he gets upset).33% (3)
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Accept that this is your love life, and how it will be.11% (1)
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Leave him.56% (5)
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Get a girlfriend to take care of your needs!0% (0)

So what if it's not the case?View Thread
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Accept that this is your love life, and how it will be.11% (1)
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Leave him.56% (5)
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Get a girlfriend to take care of your needs!0% (0)

I shave, I'll make sure I'm clean, etc. I've asked him if it's the smell, taset, if he just flat out doesn't like to do it. But he swears up and down there is absolutley no reason, and he loves to do it. But he never does it- along with all the other forms of foreplay! He claims it's just cause he's older and doesn't have the desire anymore. Yet he still has the desire to have sex and recieve!?
Now he just gets all hostile and annoyed when I bring it up, so I stopped.
I love him, and every other aspect is great. I enjoy the sex itself. I'm, not willing to leave him. I'm just bummed that that's all we ever give each other anymore. Like I said, it gets boring.........
Thoughts, tips, advice?View Thread
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Accept that this is your love life, and how it will be.11% (1)
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Leave him.56% (5)
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Get a girlfriend to take care of your needs!0% (0)

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