Hi, I read these comments and I am very concerned for them. They all seem to believe that because they have a high libido they are not normal. And during my marriages, I too, was told this over and over again. To add to the dilemma I found out with each of my husbands they were cheating on me whenever they got the opportunity and if you read about cheating you will find this is the reason that some men aren't sexually active with their wife. The bottom line is that if you find that your boyfriend or spouse and you are not a sexual match you have the wrong person. I have read here that most of the women feel, I love this man. I felt that way but they will end up hating them for making them feel unwanted and unhappy. They have the best of both worlds they have sex if they desire with you and they can still play the field and look for it elsewhere. I am not saying they are all cheating but sex once a month is just not normal unless there is a medical problem. All I can say is search your objective thoughts and do what is best for you in the long run. Things won't get better and they won't go away and you are sacrificing your happiness for someone that really doesn't care about you. Good luck and take care of yourself.View Thread
Hi An-241281 I am a 64 year old woman. I have been married three times. And, I too, have a high libido. My suggestion is to get rid of this man. As you stated it is frustrating to try to make this person match your needs. Why should you? He was told, he said he understood. If I could change anything in my life it would be to recall the time I wasted with men that were not sexually compatible. And furthermore, don't want to change their sexual habits to match yours. Or even meet you half way. After a time you are sacrificing your happiness and well being for that person. I can't tell you how often I would sit depressed and discouraged. They love to tell you that you are not normal. I can't tell you how often I have heard that. And that sure makes you feel good. The fact of the matter is you have not found someone to match your desires. In addition, you have not found one that wants to make you feel good about yourself. That is important in life. You need to be with someone that makes your feel good about yourself and not like you are some sort of pervert. Do yourself a favor and try to find the right person.View Thread
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