I was married to a man like that for 15 years so I'm speaking from my own experience and life lessons. We were married when I was 16 and had our first child when I was 22. I thought it was my 'duty' to give him what he wanted. I felt the same way you do now but it took me many years to figure out what the problem really was. He will not change and you shouldn't either. If he is threatening you with cheating then believe me he will sooner or later. 3/4 times a week is completely normal and should satisfy him. A question you should ask yourself and him is this,,Which is more important quality or quantity? And how much of the time spent in intimacy dedicated to you? If he is just wanting quickies then he can do that himself! How about taking all those multiple times in one day and putting them together for one really romantic sexual experience? If you spent an hour or two exploring your wants and desires for each other maybe that would benefit both of you? If he's not willing to give you that much time then maybe you should think about moving on. It's gonna be a lifetime together, shouldn't it be worth it? FYI my husband died at an early age of cancer and yes, I was there to see him through it. I loved him dearly but he was not my soul mate. I've since found him, love talking about sex any time and even get to initiate on my time!View Thread