My husband and I have been married for about two months and we are having some problems with sex. We didn't have sex until we got married and we were both virgins when we got married. Sex was brand new, and to be honest I was terrified of it. When we finally had sex, it was extremely painful. Yes we used extra lubricant, yes we made sure I was relaxed before entering, when once he does enter it hurts and how am I supposed to relax then?
So we went to a gynecologist and she suggested that we use a dilator kit to "stretch" me out. So we've been using the dilator kit for about a month and a half now and I have stretched out some and he can go a little bit deeper every time we try to have sex, but it still hurts. Now, I feel like my libido has disappeared. Which is frustrating because my husband's libido is through the roof! He wants to have sex at least 4 times a week and I'm never up to that. I feel terrible every time I turn him down and when I finally do comply, I'm never really that into it, it just feels like work for me. I never organism when he's inside me, and if he tries to manually please me, it takes forever for me to actually climax.
I really need help to try and improve my perspective on sex. I really want to have sex with my husband and I want to have fun while having sex, but right now it doesn't feel like fun. I went back to my gynecologist but she was out of ideas for me, she just said to keep using the dilator and give it time. What should I do?View Thread
The gyno examined me fully and said I did NOT have vaginismus. I dont think i need to go to extreme measures such as an injection. I'm just really tight down there and apparently my husband is larger than average. We had sex again last night and the vibrator did help a lot! Although there is still pain and I felt really sore afterwards...View Thread