I also have been through what you are describing exactly, we were alos both virgins when we got married, and i was terrified and sex was just awful! (Even though my husband was SO nice about it). I have been diagnosed with vaginismus - i really think you should check again with a doctor, because it definitely does sound exactly like vaginismus - also www.vaginismus.com has lots of helpful info.Vaginismus is basically any significant vaginal pain with sex and penetration that is NOT related to any structural abnormality or medical condition that you have.(Pain that there seems to be no reason for). It's generally generated by things as simple as fear of first time sex or tense pelvic floor muscles that are too tense. There are physiotherapists that are trained to help you learn pelvic floor exercises that can make a massive difference. I know how you feel - its just SO disappointing, and incredibly frustrating. I've been married for seven months now and although i thought initially that things might NEVER get better, they definitely have - so take heart - it is possible! It is still initially painful, however if you control the entry and take it slow, it makes SUCH a difference. Hope this helps you.....please be free to ask anything, i fell like i know just what you're going through.View Thread
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