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Not getting political, but those with little income will some of the cost subsidized. At work, I've been working on supplying data to three states health exchanges. Most of the states are setting one up.View Thread

No sex and you are unhappy about it and it isn't going to change. You have been together 10 years, ask yourself why.
I would not get into a relationship unless my partner loved sex.
Mine did, we got married and it was good for seven years and then it became good and infrequent and now there is no sex.
I've been married 33 years. There are things more important than sex, but not having a good sexual relationship at the beginning is a deal killer.View Thread

Secondly, I was never a fan of vibrators. I thought they messed up normal sexual response. According to an article here which I can't find, a vibrator enhances normal sexual response. If you don't have one get an industrial strength vibrator, a Hitachi Magic Wand.View Thread

Communicate your needs and let him communicate his.View Thread

A man wants to be able to control his orgasmic response to he can climax quickly or take his time to pleasure his partner as long as she wants. A man that can't last 5 minutes will be disappointed with his performance.View Thread

The opposite of this is orgasming too quickly and a man will be frustrated by the lack of control. The best time for me when I was able to have a lot of near orgasms, so a real orgasm, was (no pun intended) anticlimactic.View Thread

Work on your sexual response by yourself. I'm not a big fan of vibrators, but if you don't use one you should give it a try.
Take your time and be patient. Trying to hard can be counter productive.
One of the things your boyfriend wants to hear, is that you are working on the problem. I don't know your boyfriends preferences, but oral or manual stimulation which may be more comfortable for you than intercourse is an alternative. Lovers like to give and if you are giving you should feel better about the situation.
Your boyfriend should want to pleasure you, if he can't sexually pleasure you through oral or manual stimulation, he can give you back rubs or massages if you enjoy them.
A woman's sexual desire is much more hormonally based than a man and that's something a doctor will look at. Things may get better for you as you get older, but it is important for you to improve things now.View Thread

The first step would be to talk to therapist and get a better understanding of who you are and why you are the way you are. If you can't find a root cause for your attitude toward sex, than you can accept yourself.
My wife was sexually abused at a very young age and the memories didn't surface until she saw a therapist on another matter. Early in our relationship she enjoyed sex a lot and was ok with a variety of fairly normal sexual activities. Later on, it was only intercourse without foreplay and now we probably haven't made love in a year. We sleep together holding each other, but touching her breasts in the most gentle way freaks her out. When we did make love and only then did she want her breasts touched.View Thread

I can understand that if sexual activity is unsatisfying and therefore frustrating. If you are capable or orgasming why not have one. Kissing and foreplay should increase your interest.
Lovemaking should be pleasurable and why not feel pleasure.
If you wait until you are in the mood, you might be waiting a long time; use it or lose it.
When I was still in my sexual prime, I had a girlfriend who was my sexual soul mate. After x days of lovemaking she would say "i'm good but go ahead." At some point I would say I'm good too and we would take a day off. Ideally for me, I would make love twice a day six days a week. If there's no discomfort for both partners and nothing else is pressing, why turn down pleasure?View Thread

From this site:
Ginseng. Korean red ginseng has long been used to stimulate male sexual function, but few studies have tried systematically to confirm its benefits. In one 2002 study involving 45 men with significant ED, the herb helped alleviate symptoms of erectile dysfunction and brought "enhanced penile tip rigidity." Experts aren't sure how ginseng might work, though it's thought to promote nitric oxide synthesis. "I would recommend ginseng [for men with ED>," says Espinosa. Discuss with your doctor before taking it since ginseng can interact with drugs you may already be taking and cause allergic reactions.
Yohimbe. Before Viagra and the other prescription erectile dysfunction drugs became available, doctors sometimes prescribed a derivative of the herb yohimbe (yohimbine hydrochloride) to their patients suffering from ED. But experts say the medication is not particularly effective, and it can cause jitteriness and other problems. "It's not a great drug," says McCullough. "And I suspect the herb is not as potent as the pharmaceutical version." What's more, evidence shows that yohimbe is associated with high blood pressure , anxiety , headache , and other health problems. Experts discourage its use.
Horny Goat Weed. Horny goat weed and related herbs have purportedly been treatments for sexual dysfunction for years. Italian researchers found that the main compound in horny goat weed, called icariin, acted in a similar way as drugs like Viagra.
My recommendation is buy a 60 tablet bottle of Source Naturals Horny Goat Weed 1000mg (Amazon). Take 3 tablets in the morning and 3 at night for 10 days. The dosage is from a study I researched. Get a medical opinion first. After 10 days you will be either pleased or out $20. If it works well for you the cost would be $60 a month and you will be ready any time without having to wait for a pill to kick in. I have had no negative side effects and some mild non sexual erections, similar to when I was younger, but not as strong.
I have taken Puritan's Pride Yohimbe 2000 which is really a 1000mg capsule. I remove some of the powder(maybe 25%) from the . capsule. It takes about an hour to work and the mild jitteriness lasts about five hours. It works better for me than Cialis. If I was in a situation where I really needed something to work, I might take it. I tried the recommended dosage of 2 capsules the first time and there was a strong reaction by my penis, but the jitteriness was unacceptable enough to consider never doing it again. I have tried the 500mg capsule and the side effects were none to minor, but the dosage wasn't effective.
Before I consider any supplement I read the label and most of the ones that have a little of everything and don't contain a therapeutic dose of anything are a rip off.View Thread
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