Porn is a poor substitute for reality. First porn I watched was in the late 70's (movie theaters) , 80's video tapes .and 90's the beginning of the internet. I haven't watched any for 20 years. It's fake and repetitive. When I need a good fantasy, I go to my mind. Plenty of good stuff to draw from there.
I don't think listening to a woman having a fake orgasm is the same as lying next to a real person having a real orgasm.View Thread
My wife fell and strained some thigh muscles. She was taking pain killers all day and drinking (not a good idea). We were lying in bed with her facing my back. She has PTSD and sometimes when she is totally zonked she gets very aroused. She started orgasming for about 5 minutes without any self stimulation. I was a bystander and there was now way I would be able to get involved. I have ED issues and I developed one of the strongest erections I've had in years. I hadn't taken any ed meds and the erection was much better than when I take them. I'm hoping someday are lovemaking resumes. I can only evaluate my response from chemical or physical stimuli and it is lacking, but the mind can take it to another level.View Thread
My opinion is that conversations between child and parent regarding sex are uncomfortable for both parties. For them to mean anything they would need to be very graphic.
I'm old and my parent's generation didn't know squat. The knowledge for my generation was spotty. Over the last 40 years, too many people think that porn is a good source of sex education.
Before there was porn, there was erotica. In the early 70's I subscribed to erotic book clubs. You could learn a lot. I had a beautifully photographed coffee table book of sexual positions.
There is a lot of very good information available through books and online. A young man or woman should know the possibilities for lovemaking rather than ignorant experimentation. As a parent if asked about sex, I would point my child in the right direction to become informed.View Thread
Faking it is a bad idea. He thinks he is getting it right and that will lead to frustration on your part long term. Given where you are at, congratulations for offering yourself. A good partner, will feel good about pleasing. Give him the opportunity to please you. Find out if you can orgasm from manual, oral or a vibrator.
My wife had been sexually abused as a child and even though she had been sexually active for more than ten years never had an orgasm. The first time we made love, I stimulated her orally and manually. She had her first orgasm. It turns out she was highly orgasmic. She was capable of multiple orgasms from straight intercourse. My penis is of average size and smaller than some of her previous partners Having a good sexual experience was all it took to turn things around. The biggest turnoff for her was UTIs.View Thread
Same three possibilities; physical, psychological, relationship. You have eliminated relationship. Find a doctor who understands sex drive. I don't know much about ob/gyn, but the male equivalent is a urologist and most of them don't know much about sexual issues.View Thread
I was not much of an initiator, the last two women I had a sexual relationship with initiated on the first date.
Previously, women I was interested in didn't seem that interested in me, so I never got to the initiation stage.
I masturbated a lot, even when being in a good sexual relationship with two women. For me, sex and masturbation were unrelated.
I had PE issues and they are a lot like ED issues. I hate to sound like a broken record, but if you can find a woman who agrees love making goes beyond just intercourse, things will work out ok.
My girlfriend in my first long term sexual relationship, could not orgasm from intercourse and I couldn't last long enough to provide one, if she could. I gave her orgasms with my mouth and my fingers. She was a woman who enjoyed sex and she appreciated that I was interested in pleasing her. After a short while, we were able to use a lot of positions, I developed more control and she was eventually able to orgasm from intercourse (CAT).
It is frustrating that even though the majority of women can't orgasm from intercourse they are unwilling to engage in any sexual activity that isn't intercourse, where it can be difficult for both partners.View Thread
Porn is not reality it is bad fantasy. I'm not completely up to speed on vibrators, but the Hitachi magic wand has been popular for a very long time and it isn't inserted into a vagina. Your fingers can be and they can move in a lot more ways than a piece of plastic.View Thread