One of my fantasies is to find one of the women who hate sex and engage in a very affectionate relationship. Women generally like to be kissed tenderly, caressed and held. My objective would be to be in a zero expectation, low pressure relationship and make her purr, not orgasm.
All of these activities including holding hands I fine sensually pleasing.
I've been with my wife for almost 35 years and we haven't made love for a few years. We are extremely affectionate and I think I've given her a few small orgasms holding her and rubbing her back.View Thread
Taking your position to an extreme, maybe there shouldn't be boards like this where medical and relational advice is provided by laymen. I expect that WebMD has evaluated their exposure both legal and moral and decided that it is ok.
Usually, the first step when you have a health issue is to consult a qualified health care provider. Unfortunately , the information available from them is quite inadequate. I've been given erroneous and harmful advice from an MD. I've learned that you need to use your own judgment regarding your health.
Every suggestion here is to be regarded as having an implied disclaimer and every herb, hormone, or other supplement needs to be thoroughly researched before being taken. You should know he correct dosage and side effects.
I have BPH and a family history of prostate cancer. Searching this site on DHEA will give you the information to make an informed decision.View Thread
Masturbation doesn't kill your sex drive. I'm a strong believer in use it or lose it. Unfortunately as you get older you may start to lose it even if you keep using it.
Too much sex and kill your sex drive. I had a girlfriend who really enjoyed lovemaking. We would make love two or three times a day. At some point she would say, I'm good, but go ahead. After 4 or 5 days, I would say I'm good too and we would take a day off.
For almost 50 years I could masturbate at least once a day and my sex drive was as strong as ever. Making love is a lot more satisfying and taking the edge off than masturbating.View Thread
He needs to learn how to satisfy you first without his penis so you can enjoy sex and he can have the satisfaction of providing it. Next is to learn techniques for getting him to stop the urge to ejaculate. There is plenty of information available. I would start with a hand job. The object of the exercise is for him to keep an erection for a long time without an orgasm. Minimal stimulation to maintain an erection. When he gets used to his penis being erect and doesn't feel like his is going to orgasm, stimulation can be added until he feels like he is going to orgasm and then it is stopped until he is ready to resume. Next step is to try intercourse. Starting with him entering you and not moving. When he can do this for 5 minutes. He can try moving a little until he can recognize that he is about to orgasm and stop moving until he feels he is not ready to orgasm or withdraw and wait if necessary to try again.
The longer he is able to last without orgasming the longer he will be able to have sex. If you can last for five minutes, you can last for an hour. The more he is accustomed.to intercourse the better he will get at it. It took me about four months to develop control. The more often you make love the better with the goal of him being able to pick when he orgasms rather than having no control.View Thread
Marriage counseling. I have ED and would give my wife as many orgasms as she wanted. At the end, I would orgasm if I could and if not, that is ok. For me, pleasuring is a huge turn on. Using a lot of lubricant and following instructions can give a lot of pleasure and doesn't take much effort. Lovemaking is about giving.
I don't like the mentality if that I can't enjoy sex than nobody can.View Thread
I have BPH and a history of prostate cancer in my family so I am reluctant to take anything hormonal; prescription or herbal.
I've tried everything I've heard about and only two things have an absolute effect; horny goat weed 6000mg a day, and Yohimbe. I took 2000mg of Yohimbe once and has the strongest erection for a long time, but the side effects weren't worth it. A can tolerate 1000mg but would only consider taking it occasionally. I have no undesirable side effects with HGW and it clearly improves things. Cialas is the only ed med that works for me and I don't like the retrograde ejaculation. It is also too expensive for me considering the benefit. My HMO almost gives away generic Viagra, but it doesn't do enough.View Thread
Please go back and carefully read what I responded to and what I posted.
For example "People obsessed with sex all the time are spiritual low class and live only for the material world". Is an inflammatory statement. A lot of people have very strong sex drives and are valuable members of society. There is nothing wrong with frequent sex, it's healthy not like unhealthy habits like smoking, drinking and drugs.It has also nothing to do with spirtiuality.
I didn't say essential, I said one of the strongest bonds. I've been married once for 33 years and my wife and I haven't made love for a couple years. I'm not planning on leaving. We were together for 2 years before getting married and the first 7 years of our relationship we had an excellent sex life.
Sex is impotant to me and I would only choose a partner who felt the same way. Lack of sexual compatability puts a huge strain on a relationship. Feel free to disagree, but if there was no such thing as sex, there would be far fewer relationships between men and women.View Thread