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Lovemaking is a beautiful and natural thing an you are lucky to have a wife that enjoys it and wants it.. You might want to get a medical opinion or see a therapist.View Thread

I'm not an aggressive person. Lovemaking is all about pleasuring your partner and trying new things. I've never been into role playing or fantasy. You talk about what pleases you and what pleases her. You ask your partner is there anything they would like to try, If they have a problem with that approach they are probably too high maintenance.View Thread

My wife to be had been sexually active for more than 10 years and never had an orgasm. First time we made love, I performed oral sex on her after I orgasmed, so there was semen and blood from her period. I made a vampire joke and went ahead. She probably orgasmed for an hour.
I've only had two long term lovers and both were good at giving directions. Regarding the clitoris, they both preferred indirect stimulation. Lack of natural lubrication means a lubricant should be used. For me, the more the better. When my wife wants sex she wants it for a long time and there is no point either of you feeling discomfort. I prefer to give manual stimulation which allows your mouth to do other things and you are in a more natural love making position than when performing oral sex. If you aren't using a vibrator, consider it. More things your wife is open to, the more her possible enjoyment. Lovemaking is wonderful and the more you think about it and communicate the better.View Thread

To me, making love is giving and receiving pleasure. I believe your wife considers it as an affirmation of your physical attraction to her. This relationship will require considerable ego stroking, so get to work. Be very affectionate, many kisses and hugs and after a while see how she responds to being groped.
You need to talk to her again about what turns her on and what she enjoys when making love. Once you can up with a variety of scripts you can be more or less spontaneous.
Lying there is a huge turnoff. The message is your on your own and you better get it right. Lovemaking is a collaborative process.View Thread

Not getting political, but those with little income will some of the cost subsidized. At work, I've been working on supplying data to three states health exchanges. Most of the states are setting one up.View Thread

No sex and you are unhappy about it and it isn't going to change. You have been together 10 years, ask yourself why.
I would not get into a relationship unless my partner loved sex.
Mine did, we got married and it was good for seven years and then it became good and infrequent and now there is no sex.
I've been married 33 years. There are things more important than sex, but not having a good sexual relationship at the beginning is a deal killer.View Thread

Secondly, I was never a fan of vibrators. I thought they messed up normal sexual response. According to an article here which I can't find, a vibrator enhances normal sexual response. If you don't have one get an industrial strength vibrator, a Hitachi Magic Wand.View Thread

Communicate your needs and let him communicate his.View Thread

The opposite of this is orgasming too quickly and a man will be frustrated by the lack of control. The best time for me when I was able to have a lot of near orgasms, so a real orgasm, was (no pun intended) anticlimactic.View Thread

Work on your sexual response by yourself. I'm not a big fan of vibrators, but if you don't use one you should give it a try.
Take your time and be patient. Trying to hard can be counter productive.
One of the things your boyfriend wants to hear, is that you are working on the problem. I don't know your boyfriends preferences, but oral or manual stimulation which may be more comfortable for you than intercourse is an alternative. Lovers like to give and if you are giving you should feel better about the situation.
Your boyfriend should want to pleasure you, if he can't sexually pleasure you through oral or manual stimulation, he can give you back rubs or massages if you enjoy them.
A woman's sexual desire is much more hormonally based than a man and that's something a doctor will look at. Things may get better for you as you get older, but it is important for you to improve things now.View Thread
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