You need an attitude adjustment. One of the most stimulating things for a man is his partner orgasming. Why can't you use your hand, mouth and toys on her?. That's giving. Asking her to do it is another form of using. You are very lucky to have a willing partner.View Thread
An average younger male is going to want sex as often or more than his partner. There's no substitute for a vagina and a woman who is attached that is passionate even if that man is not particularly attracted to his partner. Being available counts for a lot. Clearly, he is the one with the problem.
You said that you made love a lot earlier. Quality is more important than quantity. Were you able to orgasm? Was he able to orgasm?
Possible reasons he's not interested:
1 He's not that interested in sex and earlier was in the pleasing stage of a relationship. 2. He's bored sexually and was more interested in getting you there than a sustained sexual relationship. 3. He wants to be the initiator and you initiating is a big turnoff. 4. He feels pressured having to perform after the newness of the relationship subsided. 5. Some men think love making is work and it's easier to masturbate to some form of porn or fantasies.View Thread
You said that you could please him using other methods. Is he able to please you with other methods? If he can pleasure you and you can pleasure him, you are in good shape. If you stimulate him and stop, how long does it take for him to lose his erection? How hard is his erection? A penis can be hard enough to orgasm, but not be hard enough for intercourse. If his penis is hard and stays that way for a while without stimulation you should be able to find a comfortable position and use your hands to guide it into you. You should both relax. A man can lose his erection fumbling around trying to enter you. If he has achieved partial entry you can use your hand to stimulate him until he can be deeper inside you.View Thread
Which came first? I developed ED and hadn't watched porn in over 20 years. When you have ED you will try anything that might work, like porn to get it up. There are physical and mental components to getting an erection. I posted something a while back about getting more aroused when my wife was aroused than taking Viagra.
Regarding masturbation, I'm more in the use it or lose it camp. How you masturbate can influence the time it takes for you to orgasm; too quick or not at all. I also know of men that think of intercourse as too much work and would rather masturbate.
I don't know of any studies where masturbation causes impotence.View Thread
It's his issue not yours. This is an ed issue. When you have an ed problem, you will try to do whatever gives you pleasure to compensate. There is nothing wrong with masturbation other than it is a poor substitute for intercourse. Porn is a booster when you are having trouble getting aroused.
I don't know his age, physical condition or what meds he is taking. He also may be having performance anxiety because of his erectile problems.
The quick fix is for him to take ed meds and see if that helps. The correct solution is for him to get checked out by a doctor.
There was a time when I was dating two women, having frequent good sex and still masturbated a lot. When I got a lot older I started having ed issues, loss of sensation in my penis and would still masturbate even if I couldn't orgasm. Something is better than nothing. I would love to attempt intercourse and please my wife anyway I could. Unfortunately for me, my wife normally would only be interested in sex if I had a solid erection. For now, my goal is to loose weight, get healthier and hopefully my erections will improve.View Thread