If you don't see anything wrong with your situation that took place in Thailand then so be it. I guess most men wouldn't have issue with doing something like that in order to gain experiences. It wouldn't be for me personally though.
If you recognize that not offering sex is going to be a major deal killer, why bother going on dates then? I understand that getting a date is like a job and I barely got a job because of my social awkwardness. I talked to a few men on the dating sites but none of them were willing to take me out. I have tried to get dates in the past but men are pretty quick to reject women who are not like the others. They had rejected me for a number of things like my hobbies and even for being somewhat learning disabled! Most men seem to have a very rigid view of what women are acceptable. I think it's because There's simply too many women for them to choose from they don't have any real reason to waste time on 'freaks.' I do honestly still feel like suicide is the only option for a person like myself who doesn't belong anywhere.View Thread
* I also forgot to add: one of the major reasons I think it may not be worth it is as soon as you tell the guy they will leave anyways. Most of them will move on to another woman. So it was a waste of time over and over again.View Thread
I do not know how much you're allowed to share on this site, but that's up to you. I do not mind. yes I know you're trying to be helpful. I agree and I don't go to bars anymore, I do not feel comfortable in loud places like that except maybe a concert sometimes. Even though I do drink but not heavily at all. I don't go to church but yea, it's hard to meet people especially the older you get. Seem like everyone is attached or living together or something.
My interests are reading books, listening to music, and collecting antiques. I like board games but no one to play them with b/c I live alone. I don't have hobbies that involve a lot of people. I don't know what I bring into the relationship b/c I never had one, LOL. I know a lot of men are lonely -- but that doesn't mean they are going to wait for sex with a person. A lot of time I feel like it's not even worth it to try dating. I seen online dating chats where the people say if the person isn't ready in X amount of weeks -- time to move on. It was majority opinion. This is why I would like to try and just accept living alone at this point.View Thread
Hi dennis. No offense to you, but 'getting laid' is not the answer to every problem even though people act as if it is."oh just go do it," etc. Like I told the other poster, how many men do you know willing to deal with or work within my situation? So again that "oh, just find a guy that likes you" is fairy tale nonsense. Most of them I have come across move onto a woman that a. has more sexual/relationship experiences and b. wants to have sex in a timely manner. I cannot just 'go do it.' Obviously I don't have that kind of mindset given the circumstances.
If it is true and the only way to is to be willing to change like you said. Then I'm not willing to just go out and sleep with men in order to get dates. I'm miserable because I don't really belong anywhere or with anyone as I am, only possible if I change. I wish I could find ways to accept living by self like this but I don't know how. TY.View Thread
I don't understand how you said you have "extensive sexual experience" yet you said you had "very little dating experiences" and a PG situation with a woman....There may very well be a man out there similar to you, I'm sure there is but really what are the odds? It's basically a needle in a haystack. I am almost 33 and no offense the only men who claim to feel the way you do are all on the Internet. I've yet to see one materialize IRL -- all of them want sex with the relationship or they aren't interested in the woman period. One time I tried to do online dating and look for someone and they had discussions section when a partner expects physical contact/sex and majority of the answers was 6 or less dates! They said if there is no obvious signs of physical contact, then the person isn't interested. Everything is just too fast for me with this type of thing unfortunately.
It's unrealistic to say 'oh go find someone who likes you' as if there's tons of men willing to date a woman with my issues and very little experience. Again, sounds nice to say, but not reality.View Thread
Well I feel it's a waste of time overall, majority of men want nothing to do with a woman that won't have sex with them. The only ones are really old men and I am almost 33. My therapist is attractive and married to an attractive man. She doesn't understand my issues at all, cannot relate far as I'm concerned. I can tell she has never had any sexual problems like this. The only thing I can do is be glad when my time comes to leave this earth, I hate it here since there's nothing for me.View Thread
Belle, The problem is sometimes I am interested...then I'm not. One time I met a nice man and we talked in store, I thought maybe he was showing interest and soon as a I that 'feeling' I want nothing to do with him. I don't know what causes this, sigh. I know you said it's not 'wrong' or 'abnormal' but it is really. Mostly other women want more to do with the guy not the opposite direction. I don't have any potential dates that you speak of it's likely I won't either but I understand what you're saying. I'm not trying to sound suicidal or anything just generally speaking I will be glad when my time comes. There's nothing at all here for me and I don't fit in anywhere. thanks for your help.View Thread
I agree with you about this, voyeur sounds accurate (except I am not into watching people's sex that are unaware, like spying).
don't you think something is wrong with a person (especially a woman) who is like this? it's certainly not normal, I looked it up and its something that is supposed to have treatments and stuff. I just wanted to experience dates very slowly (without expectation of sex) but at my age, I am too far behind.View Thread
She does know I'm a virgin because in the beginning she asked me if I had a S.O. and I told her I never dated but that was it. Very embarrassing. She's young and not really seasoned. I don't know if I have any 'desires' to be touched by men, sometimes yes sometime not at all. I am just confused. tyView Thread