Dealing with a spouse with OCD has become increasingly difficult. We have been married 25 years, and until job stress and job move came into the picture things were great and OCD managable. Now, for the last two years, and specifically the last two, it has been unbearable as extreme anger has come into play, and not realizing it was from OCD and the anxiety and depression that comes with it. It is so hard as I love my spouse very much. A psychiatrist and counselor are now in picture and trying to find the right medicine, which is difficult especially when they really don't want meds, or not wanting to take the full dose.
The pain of the harsh words and actions and self isolation of my spouse has been so difficult but now knowing it is an illness helps, but much healing needs to take place but not until the right med/dose is in order. So I live my life not a part of my spouses as I and my family are the root of the anger. So hard as we my spouse treat others so nice, and share stories, and have discussions and go out with work people, but then comes home and does zero to take part and share what is going on in their life let alone care about what is going on in ours. That is the really hurtful part that it looks like the spouse cares more about others and work people more than the family. So sad, and so very difficult, and tired of the anger being directed at us and the rage at me, but that is the illness. Praying for the right meds and dose so the healing can begin.View Thread
Thank you. Getting meds sorted out is a nightmare. One medication worked great for a month, then severe side effects started. Had to wean, which was a horrible process, and then start on a low dose of new medication, and very slowly move up. It has been over 3 months, and still climbing to the medication level needed. As the spouse, it is really hard as I am the verbal punching bag, and he goes in and out of denial about disorder which is very frustrating as one has to be very careful with someone with a disorder as to not increase their anger. So difficult, and praying everyday, and praying for patience.
I can really relate to your frustrations. Yes, the OCD thing can change, although I have not seen the one you are talking about - ours is the opposite! There is hardly any sex. It is all really sad, especially when they don't see how it affects the ones they love. I am living through a "rage" stage right now, and he said to "leave him alone" and has not spoken to me for days. HIt is like the sight of me make him sick. It is so sad....I pray he comes around with the correct meds. He thinks he is totally fine. In sickness and in health - right? It is so hard....
I will keep you and others like us in my prayers. Peace to you!View Thread