Wow, I can really relate to what you are expressing. My husband has OCD, PTSD and Depression (possibly Bi-polar as well); but all the symptoms are so similar I'm beginning to let go of the need for an exact diagnosis. My husband was disabled from his career two years ago and things have gotten much worse - a roller coaster of ups and downs. I recently reconnected with estranged family members who I'd cut off early in my relationship with my husband because I didn't know how to explain his behavior or know how to handle it myself, so I just dedicated myself to him fully to love him, be there for him and help in any way I could - not saying I'm an angel, I'm human, too and have made mistakes along the way...as you know its so complicated...it's too much to tell in one sitting.
But I'm wondering if your partner changes the thing they are OCD about. My husband has, in the last two years become OCD about sex and it has really stressed me out, tying to keep up, but also put up with some of his intense needs (and fantasies).
We've recently been communicating better, I'm finally in therapy and I hope that will help me cope a little better, because I do get overwhelmed sometimes. One of the hardest parts with this new obsession is that if I tell him I need a break he feels like we are never going to have sex again! And sincerely feels that way, to the point where he has contacted other women (at a brothel!) to set something up...I don't think he would ever do it, but it is a sign of how real the feelings are to him...it's very difficult...Has anyone experienced anything like this??
Anyway, thank you for letting me get some of this out, I really don't know what to do sometimes. On good days he is my best friend and lover; on bad days I have to remind myself why I am married to this man...View Thread