I know this reply is too late but just want to share own experience, i am male 33 married 3 years ago, and i am hair fetish guy from past 18 years or so, and i did even tell my wife about this and she was ok with it as it is harmless and moreover she said i know your weakness an i can control you with my long hair, and she allows me to trim and brush and style etc. etc and she enjoys a lot, and mainly we have good lovemaking every time after giving her trim or a cut or playing with hair, and we both are very very happy indeed, just B'coz she supported me in good manner than over reacting, after marriage she never ever got a haircut in salon, she gets it only by me as she enjoys it. so for anything if u take it positively everything ll be alright. at the end of the day you have to live for your family not what others will think. if anything happens its only husband who comes to help not an outsider. they why not share it with your husband in a good manner. Hope this might help for people who think it is wired. but honestly give a try to support your husband and see how happy your life will be from next moment.