You could try Planned Parenthood or you county health department. The longer you let it stay in you, more damage to your body could happen. I believe in IUD's, but all birth control methods have side effects. Sounds a lot like you having an allergic reaction to the IUD. If you wait, I know you and your husband will be miserable. You don't need that during the Christmas Season. Good LuckView Thread
I'm glad you stuck by your guns when you were with your prior gf. The other post are right about don't let her think she's a lot more experienced than you are. May be taken as calling her a "slut." If you fumble, just tell her your a little out of practice and want to try that again Words of advise: don't discuss your prior relationships in detail with your date. Just state,"We just didn't get along" or "We were growing in different directions." Don't over think sex. The only thing you need to be concerned about is putting "Mr. Happy" some place warm, dark, and wet. I like to put her first, but the in the end it all about me. The worst that can happen is she won't want to have sex with you or doesn't want to go out with you again. Don't let that blow you self confidence. There are more women out there. It's like sports. practice, practice, practice. Don't give up
There is nothing wrong with you. You already stated the problem is his. "He is impotent" I'm sorry, but if he didn't tell you in the beginning, to me that's a deal breaker.
You aren't married. What is your idea of a committed relationship? Living together and sleeping in the same bed. If there is no passion, your still just room mates. In most courts, unless there is paper work (marriage), your room mates.
Do you care for him? Is he who you want to spend the rest of your life with? Does he satisfy you in all other ways? Is he there for you emotionally, spiritually and financially? My opinion: if the answers are yes to ALL these questions, then your in a committed relationship.
If they are no, move on. DON'T CHEAT. I'm a victim of a cheating spouse. I would much rather be moving on than cheated on.
If your in the committed relationship, MAKE him talk to you and work it out. There are other ways a man can sexually satisfy the woman he loves. If he doesn't know, get him a book (not porn), a councelor or quite frankly you guide his hand and body to where you want. I've had problems in the past, but quite frankly, my partners have never not been satisfied. I would never blow them off either.
I think one of the reasons my ex-wife cheated is because she wouldn't talk to me. I was working 48-56 hours a week or more at the time. I was never there when she was lonely. She never asked me to change days or even take time off for her. Of course when I was home, it was not a good time, not right now, or the really good one "I get an yeast infection after sex." This went on for over 3 years. Before that was none for 2 years. She says it was the Depro shots.(birth control) Yea, she didn't pregnant. She didn't want sex. She wasn't the one sexually frustrated. I stuck by her. CHEATING was the deal breaker.
Sorry long winded, but I hope you see my point. Short and sweet. Committed relationship or not, stay and work it out or get out. NEVER CHEAT. Good LuckView Thread
Yea some people eat it, but they aren't normal. I know we ingest fecal matter with our food stuffs. Black pepper, mushrooms, any ground touching veggie can carry fecal matter. That's why we try to sanitize and clean our food. We can't get every thing. I even seen a scientist irradiate a pile of poop and said it's safe to eat. I would had him a spoon and so go for it. I'm not and won't on purpose eat poop. No I don't buy those coffee beans picked out of animal poop.
OMG do they. The problem with porn, you can't see proper techniques. Make sure she's washed there recently, unless you like the musky taste and oder. Open the lips up and lick away. It's not like oral for a guy. You have to find the right spots for each woman. Some like direct clit pressure and stimulation. Some like the surrounding areas stimulated, because the clit is to sensitive for direct stimulation. There is alot of different methods and styles you can use. I'm a guy who loves to take care of my partner and really, really love licking her. Can't say enough about it. Remember practice, practice practice. Good LuckView Thread
From my point of view. A woman who uses a toy is a wonderful partner. Your exploring your sexuality and your body. To bad it took you so to try it, but I'm glad you are. Here are some pointers from a man who has assisted a few women with their toys. 1. Make sure there are no sharp edges on it. The toy should be smooth and blunted. Factories try, but some times the molds aren't even. 2. Warm it up. Take a towel and wet it. Put it in the microwave for about a minute. Then wrap the towel around your toy. Then after it's warmed up, have fun. Warm up you lube by placing the tube in some warm water before hand. 3. Make sure your ready to use it. Play with yourself a little to get in the mood. If your not ready, it will make it difficult and unpleasureable.
Like Kramer said, use lube. If your toy is a little on the large size. Take your time. A man will play with you before going in. Your toy can't. Warmed up, lubed, and your in the mood. Pleasure awaits.
I'm glad you have a sharp eye on your relationship and life. Some people would just throw everything away. You sound like a good mother and woman. Your hands are full with a special needs child, an emotionally upset child, and 2 abandon children. We all have to do what we can to protect and nuture children. I agree with what the other folks have posted. Make your you get the support and love you need. A 3rd party mediation would be a good idea. Really make sure of the every 6 month STD work up is done. Also advise him if he produces another child, you won't be around. You have enough on your plate. Get everything in writing and filed. Make a contract. Get counseling and remember that no one needs to judge what another person has to do to keep the family together. If it's not illegal (stealing/selling drugs), there is not judgement involved. I hope he's the guy you say he is. Good LuckView Thread
Like jhmlewis stated, "Porn is not real life." Those "actors" are getting paid and doing other things behind the camera that you can't see. Medically speaking, all the information you stated about anal sex is true. You can cause big problems for yourself and your partner. If you partake in any anal, be clean, safe, and think with the big head. You won't get it again if you give your gf a UTI or PID. I did have a friend get an e-coli pneumonia from a slip of the tongue. We both were lab techs and tested the stuff he coughed up. I have enjoyed anal sex for years, but I always am careful with my partners. I know I can cause an infection and have done it in the past. Not from going back to front or direct contact, but I spread it with to much external moisture. Believe me, I wash both of us up really well before and after. Here's one of my favorite questions: Do you know why Nature made poop stink?
I know their stagnant. Use to work at Flying J. They'd come in and pay for fuel and WOW. Worse was when they came to the dinner counter. Quite a few logs had to be faked, due to the smell. LOL Dad drove stock trucks. We would be woken up in the morning after his run just from the smell alone.
Like I said before, protect yourself. A friend of mine just lost her husband last year. He was a driver for a good company. He had a couple of heart attacks and blood pressure problems. She made sure the house was paid for and her 3 kids (2 by him, 1 a grandson) would be taken care of. She couldn't change him, so she did the next best thing. PREPARED for the final heart attack. Make sure the wills, the living wills and POA's are in order.
I know you love your man. You've been with him for 13 years. Even if you can't change him, enjoy as much of him as you can. Don't let him jump in to the grave, keep fighting to keep him out. Good LuckView Thread
I glad you don't want to go outside to get gradification. My father was a truck driver for years, so I know about him not being there. I know it's not the same, but the worry and missing him was there. 2 things you can do for yourself. 1. Get a big life insurance policy on him and show him. Tell him he either changes or you'll collect. Hopefully it shocks him in to see your point of view. 2. You can't change his habits on the road. Change his and your habits at home. If you & he smoke, smoke outside only. Your doing good if you change the diet at home, but have him do other things with you. I remember my dad never wanted to travel very far from home, but find a park to walk in or a walking path. Get closer to nature.
Even after a heart attack, some people won't change. We are all creatures of habit and you have to make the most of the time you have left. So if living with less salt, less smoking, and more loving is what you want, strive for it. The old saying is "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink." If he's not going to change, protect yourself and yours. I know a few of old truck drivers, alot are single, ill, and lives alone. My dad included. Good LuckView Thread