When I met my current wife, she couldn't stand to have me touch her feet. Now the only thing stopping us is time to do it. As I have posted in the past, there isn't a part of a woman I don't love to touch or carress. I know most people can't stand to be tickled. It may affect a laugh from them, but feet tickling is a torment. It caused to much of an overload on the senses. A quick tickle and slap, then let it go. It's to much of a sensation.
I don't know about the head shaving, but as for the change of life concerns, you can talk to your GYN doctor or get advise from local friends. With the change of life, also comes some other physical changes. Dry and thinning skin, change is sexual desires, thinning hair, possible heavy growth of facial hair. If your fetish is head shaving, start with changing your hair style to short and shave under the longer hair. Don't be ashamed of what you want. Before you do anything, talk to your spouse and see if he'll shave his head. That way if you want to feel the smoothness of a bald head, feel his. You should discuss you shaving yourself with him. I love my wife, but if she shaves her head, I would rather have a notice instead of a shock. I would support her in what ever she wants to do, but would rather have a "heads" up. I'm also a Trekkie and a bald headed woman would be a turn-on for a while. Also expect the questions of are you sick or taking cancer treatments.
As a fellow prostatitis sufferer and a prior wife reduced sex sufferer, here are some suggestions:
1, Mentally build yourself up to how good the release will be, over a the day
2. Let your wife know that though her desire is low, you have to release for health reasons. This is for the guilty feeling you get from not giving it to your wife. Don't be ashamed of blasting one off.
3. Don't be uncomfortable with changing locations or positions. Lay in bed, sit in a chair, or on the pot. Be comfortable and enjoy the feelings.
4. If you think it's taking to long, it's okay. Stop and try later.
5. Think about your wife and where you had delivered yourself in her or where you'd like to deliver yourself. She may not do provide the physical reception now, but you can always remember how good it felt when she did.
6. If you look at other women (in person or photos) your not cheating on your wife. Some men have an idea that if I self release at another woman, he's cheating. Unless it's received in her or on her, you didn't have sex with her and your not cheating.
7. Remember, your a man. You have needs and desires. You want your wife physically. emotionally, and lovingly, but she can't always be there for you. You have to release another way. Your not screwing around and chancing others. Your making yourself better.
My wife (GF at the time) was horrified when she found out that my son heard us and then went and told his mother (my ex). My ex never said a thing. He had never heard those sounds from our room when we were married. That was one of many reasons we were divorcing.
To this day, she won't do anything while the kids are below us in the living room. Me? I loved it. I was waiting for the ex to say something. I didn't want my son to hear us, but when he told Mommy, well, I couldn't help but love it. I respect my wife, so I won't embarrass her. I will rub her butt in public and have PDA, but nothing really crude.
A lot of people's fantasies is to be watched. It's also a turn on for the sneaky factor. Just be careful with the wife.
We can leave it there, cause I already know your a home run. If only most of the people (men & women) out there would be as expressive and as content with their feelings and desires as us. The world would be a happier place.
Each form of birth control has it pro's and con's. Implants and Depro. can cause the longest lasting effects due to the nature of the administration method.
I have known women who have been on each and each women reacted differently. My ex wife became sexless on Depro. because it took away her sex drive. I spent 2 years without sex, because she liked not having periods and she wouldn't stop taking the shots. She's ex because of many reasons, but no sex with me and sex with the maintenance man was a big part of it.
In the service, I worked with women who did the implants to go on ships and overseas. Sometimes they liked it, and sometimes they didn't, but all had changes to deal with.
Now matter what birth control you decide to use, PLEASE research it. Try different things until you find what will work for you.
My wife is a 24 and due to our size we are limited, but I learned to take charge and put her in positions I think will improve our lovemaking. You always have to remember that comfort is key to any lovemaking. You can't put her in position that uncomfortable or painful (unless she wants that). One way to help her get over her being uncomfortable is shower with her. Your seeing you life partner/lover's body. Your touching, caressing, feeling, squeezing and totally enjoying each other. Don't try to have sex in the shower. It kills her knees or she can't breath due to the water, or you slip and hurt yourselves. Another way to make her feel comfortable with her body is looking and adoring her body with the lights on. Don't let her only make love in the dark. Touch her, kiss her, make love to her. Tell her how much you love her taste, smell, feel. Massage and rub her with oils. You learn to give foot massages and hot towel treatments. My wife was like this. She would only have sex in the dark, She didn't want me to look at her. She always came to bed dressed. I stopped this the 3rd time we had sex. Now she's very comfortable with me seeing her nude. She really felt uncomfortable (hell she freaked out) the first time we made love. She never had anyone perform oral on her. She was 45. Man did that change. Anal was something no one had tried with her either. Again that changed and she says she "does it for me", but I've heard her orgasm. Remember, always treat her with the love in your heart and all the tenderness (or spankings) she wants and listen to her. Also listen to the ladies here. They know and will tell you good advise. Love them all.