Your man sounds like it's all about him and your just there to give him what he wants. What's good for the gander is good for the goose. He needs to man up and give you some loving. Tell him to give you what you need. He needs to know he has to give you some before you kiss and make it better.
I'm a firm believer of him kissing it and making it better. As for you wanting to get right to the point, a little perliminary work goes a long way. Find a lube you can have at hand at the bed side or in a discreet package for the outside of the bedroom time. Sometimes you just got to add a little to the mix.
fcl is right. I've reported many advertising links to WebMD and they were removed.
Dennis, I wasn't here when this site had a MD or moderators. I can tell you if you try to get phone advise from your local doctor or medical facility, they will tell you to come in or go to the E.R. Liability is an ugly thing. A layman can post on here personal experiance and not be sued. A MD can be and loss their lively hood. So can this web site.
I love the experts here, but they can not treat, diagnosis, or exam the people here. The can only boost a discussion or make a statement on it.
Yes, we can tell kram his joke was funny (it was) or we can tell kram it was insulting to a service oriented person. It's our opinion or view of the subject. (by the way Michelle. thank you). We can only give our life experiences. I hope everyone keeps that in mind when the comment on others.
I agree with Gail. The MD will tell you the conservative view. Your partners are practicing safer sex (abstinence is the only safe sex) and is on supressive meds. If your partners are only staying with you and not going outside the circle, your risk is very low. Advise your partners that It has to be: stay on meds, practice safer sex and keep the circle. Stepping out of the circle allows for the possiblity of new problems and concerns.
Your best bet to assess your risk is ask your MD. He/she will tell you what your chances of getting HSV will be. No matter what your MD or gf or her bf say, it's what your willing to live with and risk to be with her.
I, as a man who believes the woman cums first, think you husband has one of 2 issues.
1) Due to his ED, he's never really understood a woman body and how it works. He needs to realize that he needs to be educated in how things work. Just slamming at a woman for 30-45 seconds doesn't work. A woman's vagina is like a rose, it has to be properly tended to bloom and spread it's petals.
2)He's a neanderthal and doesn't care. "I got mine" and that's enough for both of us.
Either way, a sex councelor or therapist will help. If he won't change, you have to decide what you want to live with. You can also tell him, just because he got his toy working, he has to learn to share it properly.
I do like Michelle's idea, in more ways than one. Have him watch a few times. This way he knows where you want to be touched and why lube is important to you. Have him provide a hand. It might excite him. It would me and Steve.
Don't be afraid to show him your body. My gf told me (later in our relationship) that the first time we made love, I had seen more of her body than her husband of 20 years or her doctor. She was really nervous the first time we made love with the lights on. Now it's no big deal.
Your a normal woman with desires. If he can't see that and won't give you your desires, then he's a fool. I hope he comes around to you.
Here is where I will say. I will agree to totally disagree. Sex is a essential part of a relationship. Sex is not just the private parts merging. It's the touching, kissing, holding and embrassing. It's the sweet nothings you tell your partner as you hold them tight. You don't have to use a penis or vagina to have sex. I'm a firm believer if you don't show physical love for your partner, then your not in a relationship. Your 2 people having a conversation.
Medication is not an exact science. If your still having a discharge, you need to get back to your doctor. If you don't think that doctor is helping, find another. You doctor can not help you if you don't ask for it. Don't be embarrassed by an infection. Anyone can get them one and it will only get worse if you don't do anything about it. Go see your doctor.
Your a 21 year old male looking at a picture of a 28 year old woman's untrimmed bush. Your suppost to get aroused. Get over it. If you have a gf, have her stop trimming it up. You need to stop looking at her pictures and start looking more at your gf. Think of her as your buddy's gf/wife. Would you try to get between your buddy and his partner? This is your father's wife.
These lusty feelings will pass, just give them time. I've looked at my gf's daughter (she's 28) and have seen, by accident, her body parts. I get excited when I see young women's body parts. I just put those thoughts away. I want my relationship with my gf more. I'm sure you want your relationship with your father more than you want sex with his wife. It's like quitting smoking. Look at all the negative affects it has if you continue on that path of lust and sex. There is no good outcome.
Instead, congrads to your dad. New baby and married to a woman almost half his age. The baby is your sibling. Do you want to have sex with your brother/sister's mom? YUCK.
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