My boyfriend has ED and PTSD. He won't really talk to me about it and I really want to understand, does this lower ones interest in sex or being at all intimate. I mean he is not even interested in pleasing me even without and erection. And he said he can't be around me or anybody for more than a few days or hours at a time. Is this part of any of the two. I really care and actually love this man,. is this all a excuse is it really just me and should I move on. I just don't understand he pursed me so heavy and long no longer than 6 mpnths ago and now its like hes not even interested. I dont get it and I really want to understand and is there anything i can do.View Thread
thanks... im thinking you might be right. its not going to be easy and i hope im able to get over him quickly. i asked him to make time for me for a few days. i hope he does cause i feel like this will be the straw that broke the camals back. we need this time... i need this time. why are men so dang complicated. anyway i fear you might be right and if he doesnt giive me the time i ask for i will sadly have to walk away. i hope i can find the right words to sayView Thread
Do you know anything about PTSD? I think he said he was diagnosed as a recluse and im not 100% sure but I think his not being affectionate is part of his PTSD as well. Being touchy feely and very verbal about his feelings and so on.View Thread
Thank you. I say your other reply and I do need to think of me. I guess I have been trying so hard to be understanding and not selfish. He has seen a doctor for both but im not sure how oftern he does see thedoctor. And I also feel like if I walk away and break up I will just look like a lier or something. I always tell him that hes not just the flavor of the month... that i am indeed really feeling him and that the age thing and ED thing doesnt bother me. Basically trying to get him to understand and see that I am serious and value the things that really matter. But the time thing is important to me and I need more time so that we can grow. I don;t know maybe I am asking to much to soon its only been 6 month
Thank you for your reply... the age difference is big but he told me it wasn't a problem. I really am stumped. Like I said at first he was all over me, emailing me and texting basically giving me tones of attention. I really wish I knew what to do. I have tried talking to him about trying different things (adding toys or different positions and even the backdoor). He had a prescription for laverta, but im not sure if he used it or is using it he said he was only given 6 pills. But this was back in Feb. and he was also checked for low T, which he said that his results were fine as far as the low T. Also he is very private and doesn't really talk about his problems like that. He said he has a counselor but Im not sure how often they speak or if its even for his PTSD. I guess Im just confused if these are really the casue of his not wanting to spend more than a few hours or more than one day togehter once a week. Or if indeed like you suggested Im being played and am just being to blind to see it. I am open to trying different things, I know he says that hes been doing him and stuff for almost 14 years and that hes older and stuck in his ways but hmmmm.... I've asked him if its me and he says no, that its just an adjustment but he claims to want to try hes just not sure if we will really work being that he is a recluse and not good at showing his affections. I guess Im wondering if this is due to his PTSD and ED or is it something that will always be and I need to let it go View Thread
omg thanks for posting this.. I have been going through this same thing, but me and my boyfriend are 18 years apart and only been together for 6 months but he acts just like your describing and its driving me crazy cause I want to understand and try different things to help him, he doesn't even want to touch me anymore. When does get erect once we start its over with in mins and he doesn't even want to orally pleasure me after. im so lost and feel like there is nothing I can doView Thread
I was wondering if you might be able to give some advice or your opinon my boyfriend had ED and weve only been together 6 months. At first he was all over me and now it seems like hes just not interested. Does ED make men push away from whom they were so recently interested in. I should also mention that there is a 18 year age cap. Does that play a roll in it at all. I am just starting to feel real unattractive and no longer wantedView Thread
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