My boyfriend really wants to swap with other couples. We've done it once or twice and I enjoyed it - I understand the excitement and that it's a turn on but lately we've been fighting and I don't feel attractive anymore. I'm really nervous to do it again because I don't feel comfortable in my body - I feel a bit too out of shape (I am lol) but he tells me I'm attractive and keeps bringing up the subject. He finds couples on line to swap with and I keep putting it off...I want to experiment with him but I just don't feel confident enough to disrobe in front of complete strangers. When we're in bed I fantasize with him and describe scenarios of foursomes but when it finally comes down to it I just chicken out. I don't know what to do and I think he's getting frustrated, I want to do this for him but I'm horrified about other people seeing my body - how do I gain confidence to go through with it??View Thread
It's all in the attitude you hold over what happened - there shouldn't be blame...you let it get as far as it did because you obviously had an attraction to the idea...maybe you set the ground rules because you knew how jealous you'd become if they had sex. They should have respected your wishes but then again everyone was tipsy and judgement was cloudy and they lost control. For them it was just fun - is there any way you could think of it the same way?View Thread
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