Hello, My boyfriend never cum during sex. We have sex everyday. He has no problem getting hard. In fact, as soon as I touch him he usually gets an erection. When we have sex he always wants me to be on top. I prefer to be in missionary, or to be on my hands and knees but in those positions he usually gets soft after a few thrusts. So I do what he wants and goes on top, trying a few diffrent positions
He told me that he comes close to cumming when he's in me, or when im giving him oral, but he just cant cum. The only instances that he came was when he jack himself off and have me suck his cum afterwards. Its such an impersonal way of having sex. When I try to jack him off after long session of ridding him and giving him multiple blow jobs he usually just brushes my hands away and closes his eyes and masturbate while i lay next to him and watch. Its such an impersonal way of having sex and its ruining my self esteem.
I have been with a few men before and none of them had any of this problems. I've always made them cum multiple times in a session, either from being in me or by giving them blowjobs. Its really is a problem for me. It makes me feel so useless and unattractive. I tried asking him what was the problem, and how i can make myself better for him, but he kept saying that its not my fault. Somehow i cant believe him.
We talked about different things that may have caused it, and he blamed it on stress, exhaustion from school, from not being in a relationship in a while. From those conclusion, i tried different things. Giving him massages, taking him out to steak dinners, in general making him feel relaxed and happy before sex.
Sex is a big part of my life, and as much as I enjoy cumming when I am on him, I dont enjoy sex as much when my partner cannot cum. In fact, sex turns to be unenjoyable when i cant please my partner. I love cum and its a big part of my sex life to have it on me, in my mouth, and in my pussy. I love him and I want to be with him but I'm just so sexually frustrated when my guy doesnt cum.
Does anyone ever had this problem before? If so what helped solved that probelm? What can I do to make my boyfriend cum? I've tried giving him blowjobs until my jaw hurt, jack him off, and then getting back to pleasuring him with my mouth, but it seems that no matter how close I am to making him cum, he just never crosses that line. Should i let him watch porn while we have sex so he can cum to some pornstar? The thought of it makes me angry and sad, like he wants someone else other than me.View Thread
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