Hi there I have what may to some people seem an odd problem. I am a some what attractive 25 year old woman who has been married for going on six years. Here goes I love sex I could have it every day even twice a day with on qualms unless I am death bed ill that is. My husband however is much less um motivated. He is a very well endowed man thst dosent enjoy porn and rarely masterbates granted all he really has to do if he wants to get off is hint a bit and I take care of him. We have had interesting sex in diffrent places and have enjoyed it with one catastrophic failure when we had a threesome with a friend for his birthday. She kept it foreplay only with him and then asked if she could watch for a few after a hard orgasam she then fled that probably sounds dramatic but she litterally ran from the room and walked home. We remain friends and even make jokes about it but truthfully it sent him into a depression that he has just recently gotten over. I need some new ideas suggestions things we havent tried. I ask for his ideas and he pretty much sayes he will do whatever makes me happy but has no real input on the matter.
What we have tryed
Objects, sex in strange places, me tied up, him tied up, choking, playing rough (aka smacking biting hair pulling), dirty talk, soft touching, mutual masterbation, watching porn together, being loud, being quiet, shower sex, road head/hand jobs, anticipation sex setting it up and telling him while he is at work what will happen when he gets home, sexy texts and pictures, he has watched me with other girls. To be honest I wanna suprise him try something new but im all out of ideas.
So you are feeling all gooey over another girl who you know has slept with women in the past and you feel drawn to her. First good for you a persons sexual prefrances grow amd change over time. Thats good. Second if your conserned about your ability to contain your self you should probably talk to your husband I mean the girl you are interested in may or may not be interested in you. Tge thing is many (not all) secure men have little or no problem having a spouse eith a same sex partner heck he may have even fantasised about you with another woman. Get his blessing and get your feet wet if both parties are willing hubby might even want to watch. You may like it you may never want to do it again but you better belive it is better thst the tenstion not telling is going to cause between you and your friend and you and your husband.
It is possible that it only appeals because it is forbidden perhaps just having you husband's belssing will quench the flame.
Are you bi you ask why lable your self you are attracted to this woman I say you're just branching out best of luck dearView Thread
Wow I got a real man hater vibe from that comment it is both of our responsbility to make the relationship work he work 12 hour days six days a week and comes home to me every night he loves our son and takes the time to tell me im pretty even on a crap day me trying to keep our sex life fresh and cooking dinner most nights hardly makes me solely responsible for our spark. WhewView Thread
We have a tender loveing relationship outside the bedroom he likes to hold hands and go on long walks we have pg 13 date nights and enjoy one another soely for conversation. We talk openly about sex and the only thing we have ever done that he didnt like (his words not mine) was the threesome fail witch come to think of it was the only fantasy he ever shared with me we have aggreed to try it again in the future witj someone diffrent.
He enjoys the novelty of new things before we were married he never kept a girlfriend longer than three months. I enjoy providing that for him and he has always shared that he enjoys it he just has no requests And im out of ideas.
On the all about sex tone this question may be precived to have or relationship is healthy we talk about everything that dosent fix the fact that I have noticed him gettimg board with the 'normal sex' the last week or so and ive got nothing I can think of tgat we hsvrnt doneView Thread
You dont want to give it up because you enjoy it. I see nothing wrong with that however you must or you wouldnt question it. Why not try involving your wife. If you never tell her she will eventually catch you and get angry (not necessarily because you are doing it but becausr you are hiding it). Talk to her about it smd perhsps you can have dome fun with it maybe she can be your sex chat partner while you both masterbate maybe she wants to service you while you get turned on by some internet whore maybe she wants to watch and maybe it will make her mad as hell and msybe shell say you do what makes you hsppy and you can continue as you are but if you plan to continue she will end up mad eventually any way as I see it this is one of those situations when you have almost nothing to lose by being honest about it.
The reality is that a relationship is only a set of rules two people agree to abide by if yiu want diffrent rules you simpl th have to negotiate for them. Best of luckView Thread
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