Hi everyone. I'm sure this is a tale as old as time, but I just had to express my frustration and vent somewhere.
I'm 29 years old, married, with three children who are the world to me -- including a 2 month old. My wife and I love each other, and get along for the most part. Over the past few years, it's become more of a partnership and "team" setting rather than husband and wife. I have an incredibly high sex drive, but she is the exact opposite. Her upbringing and attitudes toward sex are negative and view it as a burden more than anything. There have been moments of enjoyment, but they are few and far between. I do everything I can to make her feel wanted and go to great lengths to ensure her pleasure.
With a new baby, things are obviously turned upside down. She's a fantastic mother, but sometimes I feel she's way more interested in being a mother than being a wife.
Of course, our sex life is nonexistent. With the previous children, it wasn't a big deal to me at all. I dealt with it and was patient until things got back to normal.
But this time, holy hell. I feel extremely sexually charged most of the time. I work in an office environment, and it seems like every woman I see has something that turns me on and makes me want them. It's at a level that if given the chance, I'm not sure if I could say no to cheating.
I've never done anything nor do I want to. But lately I've been feeling like I really crave sex. More than I've ever felt. Yes, I realize porn and masturbation are outlets -- but they are empty and do not provide real satisfaction to me.
So anyway, I'm not really looking for any answers. Just want to share my experience and see if anyone has felt or feels the same way. I know things will go back to "normal" in time, but for now, it's very difficult.View Thread
Thanks for the reply, Gail. I appreciate the advice, but would like to say that I'm a bit taken aback by your suggestion that I'm inactive and don't help out enough. I'm extremely hands on with the kids. A partial list of my responsibilities:
-- Cooking dinner every night. She isn't a very cook cook (self-admitted), and I enjoy cooking when I get home from work.
-- Doing the dishes after dinner
-- Giving the kids their bath every night
-- Vacuuming, sweeping, and cleaning as needed and when I have time outside of my full time job and freelance work
-- Playing with the kids almost every chance I get
And this doesn't include the normal things expected of a husband. I'm very respectful of the fact she just delivered. But I think my frustration goes beyond that.
So I just re-read your last paragraph. *Seem* to think the world of? How can you even being to judge that?
You've completely missed the mark with your analysis. And I say that in all respect and sincerity.View Thread