In our 20 years of marriage , my wife has had 3 orgasms...she described them as not very intense, of no real interest to her. She has no desire for more , or ones of more intensity. They were the only ones she has had in her life. She says she is very happy with our sex life. All of that is fine for her but is really not very good for me.....it reduces my sexual self-esteem and confidence to almost zero and makes me dread having sex with her as I know that the outcome will be disappointing. I should add that she admits to having no libido and I always have to suggest and initiate sex....nothing has changed in the slightest in our sex 'routine' in 20 years....and she is very resistant to change.Any suggestions?View Thread
Nothing has changed because she doesn't want anything to change. There is a very limited 'repertoire ' of things that she is prepared to do and she will not budge from that. She enjoys the closeness and romance of sex but nothing else. i think she finds an awful lot of it faintly disgusting. Any attempts I have made to introduce anything radically different ( e.g. toys, fellatio, touching her 'elsewhere' ), have met with fierce resistance and anger. I am always asking her what feels 'good' during foreplay and I just get 'it's all nice'...i.e. she doesn't really know what I mean. As a male I don't feel I have much to work with.......View Thread
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