Are you using condoms ? They made it very difficult to climax and to stay rock hard for me. You feel so little its very frustrating. The first few times with them I actually lost my erection.View Thread
30 minutes is too long if he is young. As soon as he can re-get his erection you should try. It worked for me. As soon as I was about to cum, I went to our bathroom and ejaculated there, cleaned up and waited 2 minutes and started again. My wife had an orgasm and was so happy she phoned me the next day at work .View Thread
I'm in a similar position to you. I got married and for the first time had sex without a condom. I was finishing far too quickly.
I now masturbate or let her help me just before sex. It works very well. I am able to stay erect after ejaculating. At your age you should be able to do the same or might just need a couple of minutes rest.
Its almost impossible (for me anyway) to ejaculate that quickly again and it gives you more than enough time to satisfy your partner.
For the last few month I've been waking up at about 2 in the morning with a very hard erection. I realise men get them while they sleep, but does it wake any other men on the forum ? I'm considering speaking to my doctor as it really is affecting my sleep.
Bit embarrassing though, but after having a vasectomy, with nurses checking up on me afterwards, I guess it might not be that bad View Thread
Hi Kram/Dennis. I'm not a youngster anymore. I'm 43 !
The problem is I very often wake up at 2-3 in the morning with one. I don't sleep very deeply so the throbbing erection is actually waking me up and what's worse it messes up my night's sleep.
I do find if I masturbate before I go to sleep it happens less. The odd thing is my sex drive is the same as in my teens and I can stay erect after having an orgasm. Maybe I'm wrong, but raging teen hormones at 43 seems a bit weird to me !View Thread
I had similar problem at your your boyfriend. I disagree he is addicted to masturbation. I was single for a long time and in those circumstances its your only outlet.
What happened to me I I also went soft the first few times I had sex after my long break. My partner was NOT happy with me either and it becomes an issue for the man too as he starts to think there is something wrong with him.
The problem basically is a vagina doesn't grip anywhere near as tight as most men grip their penis while masturbating. I was also wearing a condom which (unfortunately) drastically cuts down the sensation a man feels.
My partner then tried another approach. She focused a lot more on my testicles. (during sex, hand and blowjobs). The first time she did that during a blowjob I lasted two minutes !! She took my testicles (one at a time) in her mouth and gently sucked on them while jerking me off with her hand. As men don't touch there much during masturbation it sent me into orbit.
During intercourse we did reverse cowgirl. I felt much more in that position and she was able to play with my testicles with her hands. Just remember to be gentle. That area is _very_ sensitive.
Once your boyfriends starts to cum he (and you) will relax and things hopefully will improve. It did for me. I now cum much easier now.
Hope that helps (and that I wasn't too blunt)!View Thread