For the last few month I've been waking up at about 2 in the morning with a very hard erection. I realise men get them while they sleep, but does it wake any other men on the forum ? I'm considering speaking to my doctor as it really is affecting my sleep.
Bit embarrassing though, but after having a vasectomy, with nurses checking up on me afterwards, I guess it might not be that bad View Thread
I had similar problem at your your boyfriend. I disagree he is addicted to masturbation. I was single for a long time and in those circumstances its your only outlet.
What happened to me I I also went soft the first few times I had sex after my long break. My partner was NOT happy with me either and it becomes an issue for the man too as he starts to think there is something wrong with him.
The problem basically is a vagina doesn't grip anywhere near as tight as most men grip their penis while masturbating. I was also wearing a condom which (unfortunately) drastically cuts down the sensation a man feels.
My partner then tried another approach. She focused a lot more on my testicles. (during sex, hand and blowjobs). The first time she did that during a blowjob I lasted two minutes !! She took my testicles (one at a time) in her mouth and gently sucked on them while jerking me off with her hand. As men don't touch there much during masturbation it sent me into orbit.
During intercourse we did reverse cowgirl. I felt much more in that position and she was able to play with my testicles with her hands. Just remember to be gentle. That area is _very_ sensitive.
Once your boyfriends starts to cum he (and you) will relax and things hopefully will improve. It did for me. I now cum much easier now.
Hope that helps (and that I wasn't too blunt)!View Thread
I had this problem. I got too used to masturbating when I was younger. When you are living at home and need to masturbate you grip your penis very tightly and stroke fast so you can orgasm quickly to lessen the risk of being caught.
A vagina doesn't feel anything like that. (Especially with a condom on). The first few times I had sex I actually went soft a few times because I felt almost nothing.
Position is everything when getting over this. Initially I found I only had an orgasm with my partner on top. (Reverse cowgirl). She'd go the extra mile and play with my testicles which was enough to send me over the edge. Once you orgasm a couple of times during intercourse you start worrying less about it and it becomes easier to orgasm in other positions.