Only two thing to say. The first is that if you already have a lube that you like and that your wife likes why change? The second is that food near the vagina is a HUGE no-no. The risk of yeast infections is far too great to riqk it. If you can ensure it cannot get into the vagina then fine but beware of any that entersd. You don't want to ruin your weekend, do you?
All I can say is that if you both want it then why not? However, you have a lot of groundwork to do before actually doing it. You need to be sure that she isn't doing it just to please you (she needs to do it because she really wants to do it). You will have to decide whether you want a stranger or someone you know. Most importantly you MUST decide on basic rules - whether he would be allowed to penetrate her, what the interaction with you would be like, have a safe word so that everyone knows when to stop, decide on whether to have contact with him outside of the bedroom, whether either of you could see him alone, etc. Think long and hard about all the variables, set the rules and then make your decision.
For what it's worth, I have had MFM threesomes in the past and loved them However, they were with friends. There is no way I would ever have one with my husband because (firstly) I have no desire to and (secondly) I do not think I could handle the emotional fallout if I did.
Basically, all women are different. Not all women experience sexual difficulties or loss of libido with menopause. The best thing to do is to observe your wife, listen to her and take your lead from her because she knows much more about her sexual appetite and tastes than any of us here can even guess at. There is no need to slow down if she doesn't feel like slowing down!
If your wife is not feeling any adverse effects from menopause then perhaps she doesn't actually need to consider HRT. If she is then she should discuss this with her doctor to see if it's OK for her (not all women can take HRT just like not all women can use hormonal birth control) and, if so, what type (combined or estrogen only).View Thread
There's nothing inherently dirty about sex, but if you try real hard and use your imagination you can overcome that.
It's possible that it IS a yeast infection (though, obviously, I cannot know that for sure). Your partner may have caught it (men have few symptoms) and passed it back to you after you were treated. It may even have been him that gave it to you in the first place.