Yes, a guy can want oral sex and not want sex with his spouse. It's similar to men who masturbate rather than have sex. Oral sex/masturbation is easier because they only have to focus on them while with sex, they have to worry about someone else (or at least they should).
If your husband cares about you, he should at least make an effort for you.View Thread
I disagree with stevesmw. Look up vaginismus and see if those symptoms match yours. A brief quote from WebMD:
"When a woman has vaginismus, the muscle walls of her vagina contract or spasm in response to attempted insertion, for example, with a tampon or penis . This involuntary muscle contraction can be mildly uncomfortable or it may cause searing or tearing pain."
You need to find a sex therapist that specializes in this. It can be treated.View Thread
I think I'm the only female who goes to a strip club with DH to celebrate her birthday and then gets upset when she doesn't get a lap dance.
The club we go to has specials where you get two lap dances and a porn video for $20. None of the dancers even glanced our way and DH pretty much had to flag one down for himself. After he left, one dancer said hi but that was it. Not one asked if I wanted the dances/video.View Thread