Just from reading his prior posts and this post, I doubt he'll relax even after he gets tested. The OP seems to have an irrational fear that someone will poke him with an HIV infected needle or inject him with HIV infected blood.View Thread
First, you should not douche period. The vagina is self-cleaning and douching can upset the flora and cause an infection.
As for how you can make him comfortable enough to perform oral, you might not be able to. Some people, men and women, just are not comfortable with performing oral on their partners be it the taste, smell, or some other reason.View Thread