Here's what you need to do! I think you need some couples counseling so he can be 'told' in a non-threatening environment that it IS his responsibility to help you orgasm. *In general* women don't orgasm from just vaginal sex...and that direct clitoral contact is often needed.
You are absolutely correct...with 10 fingers, a tongue, and a penis there's no reason he shouldn't be able to satisfy you. And he should be able to use a vibrator with his tongue, fingers, and penis without feeling threatened..
Also, the fact that he was upset that you had sex toys is also disturbing. If he was able to communicate properly and if he understood that sex toys are a fun and natural part of COUPLES sex then you wouldn't have to hide them.
Your husband desperately needs some counseling.View Thread
I'm a guy and while that would be nice, I would never *expect* a woman to let me ejaculate in her mouth or swallow. That's just not being a good partner!!! The guy is not being reasonable or considerate. I once ejaculated in my wife's mouth not realizing she didn't want me to, early in my marriage. She ran to the bathroom...I never did that again to her.
Gail, I agree with you to a point. Pharmas spend hundreds of millions dollars on R&D for a drug. And the public is also probably not aware of the hundreds of millions the pharmas spend on developing a medication that never makes it to market.
But we went through this years ago during infertility treatments. We paid through the teeth for the same meds that the pharma companies were selling in another country for a fraction of the price. We'd speak to people in infertility groups who would go across the border to Mexico and go to a legitimate pharmacy with an Rx and pay a fraction of the cost.
Now let me qualify my statement to say that people need to be really careful about buying drugs from another country, esp mail order, unless they are absolutely certain that they are getting the real and current (not expired) medications. But it true that the Pharmas do sell the same drugs internationally for much less.
I would not marry him until you've been to come counseling. If you have no desire for sex it will most probably be a short lived marriage. Those are not normal feelings. I'm curious; how old are you and your fiance? You might try looking at this link from Mayo Clinic. Maybe it will give you some ideas on possible medical reasons View Thread
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