For many years after marrying my present wife I longed for my first wife. I use to have dreams about her every night for years. I wouldn't commit to my now wife for fear of missing a chance of getting back with my first wife. I always felt that if she called I would have went running.
Eventually I found out my first wife had remarried and moved away. Reluctantly I married my wife and proceeded with life. It took a few more years for that longing to subside. Then one day I realized I was glad that I was with my present wife, that my life was better than it would have ever been with the first wife. And I wouldn't have my daughter if I was married to someone else.
Then 22 years later I get an email from her present husband telling me how miserable she had made him the last 20 years and now I really believe that my life had headed a different way for a good reason and I am very glad for it.
You don't have as many years invested and it could go either way for you. Why didn't she dump her husand/boyfriend for you? Your just going to dump someone that has made a commitment to you for someone that hasn't.
I think you are taking a huge chance. Either way you will probably have regrets.
But I agree with Pi. If you are going to do it, do it quickly so not to waste anymore of your wifes time.View Thread
It isn't really worth responding to his posts. For calling him a jerk I would guess they will delete your post. Best not to let individuals pull your chain. If they capture your spirit they have won the battle. Everyone is welcome to post on every discussion. If you don't like there input it is best to ignore them.View Thread
Personally I would not have the surgery. As a man I can tell you I have been with one woman that had labia like you describe and I loved it. I still fantasize about her on a regular basis and that has been a long time ago.
Sounds like it creates some embrassing issues, but I think it would be worth dealing with and remaining intact. Just letting you know my preference.View Thread
Not that I have been with a huge amount, but I have never been with a woman that could orgasm from intercourse. One sort of could, but really she only did when she would be on top, and she would grind her clitoris against my pelvis until she orgasmed.View Thread
The Hymen may be broken during intercourse the first time and some bleeding may occur. But if she is an active girl it may already have been broken. By active I mean athletics or strenuous activities. If you are worried about staining the sheets you could put a towel down, just in case. I imagine the amount of bleeding varies from woman to woman. My first wife was a virgin our first time, and she did bleed a little. But it was minimal and didn't get on the sheets at all.
The only tradition or guideline to follow is to be a loving and caring husband. And you may want to learn some about the female anatomy so that you can learn how to give her an orgasm. It isn't quite as simple as just having intercourse.View Thread
I have always preferred petite women. Not sure why. It is just what I have been drawn too. Especially petite asian women. My wife is petite, she has gained a few pounds over the years, but she is still small.View Thread
I can tell both of you that you need to seek help if you do not want to ruin your marriages. My first marriage ended because of my wifes lack of interest in sex. And that was over twenty years ago, he current husband recently contacted me after having the same problems that her and I had, wanting details of our problems. He hung in there a lot longer than I was willing to. But their marriage is coming to an end also due to the same problem.
So seek counseling, talk to your doctors, do what ever you have to do if you want to maintain a relationship.View Thread