Hi, I appreciate your honesty and approach to the subject. Yes, I should have talked a long time ago with my wife and yes, I do pull away. I tend to look at it this way, dont ask the question if you really dont want to know the answer. What if she says no way; then what? Am I a pig for asking? Will that be a resentment on my part or hers? I still look at it that if she hasn't swallowed on her own by now, she wont if asked. It is very cool that you do and that Stubborn wants to and has asked for advice. There are very lucky men in both of your lives. I hope they give you nice gifts in return.View Thread
Red, you bring up a good point; I may decide to talk about it with my wife. However, I gather based upon you have swallowed from the first time and it is not an issue for you. Wouldn't seem that if a woman wanted to, (as in your sex life you do) she just would without the man asking. Your comment "I don't swallow because I think I should I do it because I love to. " is so cool. To me, that shows your desire to do it. Your man is lucky. I just kind of look at it this way; if my wife wanted to, she would have by now. 37 years of marriage and she starts swallowing now? Why not back then? Not trying to argue, just trying to figure out life and marriage at mid life.View Thread
I think it is nice that you have the desire to swallow. It doesn't seem there are many discussions regarding women that want to. Most discussion involve men wishing their wives would. So, with that said you may want to try some technics people have offered. Have him cum in the back of your throat as one possible option. Another is to make sure he semen has a better taste. Like some of the posters, I have read that pineapple helps a lot. I may sound like an expert on this subject. I am not. I have never cum in my wifes mouth in the 37 years we have been married. I would like to but I dont think she is crazy about the thought. I think at times she would like to try but I too am hesitant for fear of her reaction. What if she doesn't like it? That plays in my head as well. Anyway, your man is fortunate to have you and your desire to try something new. Good luckView Thread
It looks to me there is a much bigger issue than a blow job for him. I would gather that you are dissatisfied with his lack of keeping it hard for your pleasure. That is understandable. I think that when our sexual needs are unfulfilled resentment takes over quickly. From my view as a guy, I am not so sure I would want oral sex if you are not into it. Guys love enthusiasm when receiving oral. If you dont enjoy giving it, how do you think he feels? I would have a difficult time staying hard if there were no sincerity in it. The question for you is can you achieve pleasure from receiving oral or from a toy? If so, that may hold something for you until his ED situation can be worked out. It is ironic I offer this advice since my wife and I are still going thru issues after 37 years of marriage. Oh well, they said for better or for worse.View Thread
Dfrom and Nohard, Thanks for your comments and suggestions. I don't want to hijack this thread with my problem. The original poster has a concern regarding her excessive moisture. That is a good problem. I just want to say it was so great when I could enter my wife and orgasm inside. I seemed to fit just right. I miss those days. You guys know it, the feeling of a woman's wetness and natural lubrication provides so much pleasure. I miss those days with my wife but as I said, there other things. But even those cause me some anxiety. I have a difficult time letting go when my wife is performing oral on me. I don't want to hurt her. Oh well, maybe in time I'll get comfortable with the idea.View Thread
I think it is really great that you do this. Although it may not be correct to ask but have you gone thru menopause? My wife and I are in our mid 50's and we cant have intercourse because she is so dry it hurts her. Menopause really put the damper on this part of our sex life. We cant use lube because it irritates her too. Oh well, there are other things we do instead. All I can say for you is to enjoy this extra "benefit" of intimacy. From a mans perspective, it would be highly arousing if my wife did this.View Thread
I know this may sound a bit weird but does it really matter how much semen is released during ejaculation? I could understand if a couple is trying to conceive the more the better chances are. However, if preventing conception is important or a couple is past child bearing years, does it matter? Are women aroused by the amount of semen? Does it mean it was a better love making session due to the amount of semen? Do women feel they are responsible for the amount of semen released? Sorry but we have been married for 36 years and could not ask my wife this question. I guess thankfully I don't release a lot. My wife is not too keen about clean up afterwards and I try to avoid getting it on her. Sorry if that is too graphic.View Thread
I used to like doggy until about 10 years ago when my wife asked me why "that is all I ever want to do". That isn't the case since we have used variety for all of life. Her comment had a profound effect and we haven't done doggy at all since. Who says the biggest sex organ isn't the brain. I guess it goes back to what ever she likes is good for me. Not real creative but it helps avoid those awkward moments when you discover someone has been doing something they don't really like. I don't like those moments. I feel weird, embarrassed, creepy and ashamed when they happen.View Thread
Have you thought of a vasectomy? I dont know if it would solve her "gross" opinion of semen but it may allow you to rogasm outside of your clothes. The thought of what you have to do is disturbing and counseling is needed, not an option. I am not a therapist but there is an issue in your marriage that needs to be resolved. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your wife. Seriously. Sex is supposed to have complete physical intimacy. You folks are short changing each other with this denial of pleasure.View Thread
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