After I learned my H was cheating on me (started only 1 year after we married), I also learned he'd cheated on his first wife their entire marriage (32 years), with one affair 20 years long... I was heartbroken, thought I'd been careful the second time around - long dating, engagement, etc...
I would not have survived without the helpful group on SurvivingInfidelity.com (SI)
You can go there and read without signing up. In order to post you join (it's free).
It doesn't matter that these were "only" one night stands - she broke your faith, made you doubt your sexual prowess, and called into question your entire life (was it a lie?).
You *will* get past this - one way or another. Folks on SI say that to save a marriage the unfaithful partner MUST talk about it - it is the only way the betrayed heals...
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