When we brought her to the doctors we did not explian the real reason because what if it was innocent and some kind of normal for his arrousal. But she was definately checked out. Ok here is more. My daughter shares alot of her experiences so to speak not ALL but sometimes I think too much. I always told my daughters they can talk to me about anything and everything. Ummm yeah TMI at times. Maybe if i did not know some personal things in there relationship it would not bother me. My daughter sometimes does not know what to feel. That has to be difficult being with a man that you don't feel 100% about things. She is fear of him at times because anytime they have an issue he always uses the pumpkin and she gets afraid because we don't have money for lawyers if ever needed. I feel bad but mixed, very mixed. You are right I can't spy. We have to come up with good ideas about good touch bad touch, even this can be confusing because you don't want to plant anything wrong in a childs head too. I hate this, I hate this, I hate this. I am so emotional off and on.View Thread
I was abused when I was little by my grandfather, I was not the only one. But I was 13 years younger than the oldest one abused and onother was abused for 13 years and others. As I grew I'd tell myself, I will NEVER let this happen to my children. When my youngest was 9 now 25, she came to me and told me something about her grandfather, my husbands father. I discussed this with a health professional and they called CPS. A big investigation went forward and by the times the police were sent to question him he had a lawyer already and they did not have enough to go on BUT they in turn arrested my nepwhew at the age of 12/13 for sadomy against my daughter. I went through hell. no one believed me they said I was a liar, I was evil, I was messed up.........so many things were said against me. We managed to survive that but many years of heart ache and keeping some of my feelings in. Now I am very uncomfortable with my son-in-law. I get such uneasy feelings from him but not all the time. I worry about my grandaughter who is now 3. What if i am wrong/what if I am right? I do not want an innocent person in trouble. I DO NOT want my grandaughter harmed. How wrong would it be to put a hidden devise in my grandaughters room so I can listen for her at night. My daughter has been working a new night shift job and her husband is home. They live with us. I do not trust my son-in-law at times, there is just something about him. 1 year ago my daughter told me he was on the floor playing with his daughter and she got on the floor and played with them because she was suspicious the way he rolled away, and she found that he had gotten aroused while playing with his daughter. My daughter brought it to his attention at first he denied and said it had a mind of it's own and when he was playing his daughter was bouncing or brushing up against it. He was ashamed and embarrassed. My daughter wrote about it and got questions and comments to see is it normal. My daughter spoke to me, I called 2 people and we brought my grandaughter to the doctors and had her checked out. Thank God she checked out fine. But i still feel sick at times about this incident. I do not feel this way about everyone BUT some people I get such strong uncomfortable feelings/vibes from...I don't feel comfortable with him giving her a bath or helping her in the potty at times........am I really that messed up? Help me, if my son-in-law is truly innocent ok, fine. But what if there is the slightest chance my feelings I have at times are to be true. God knows I want to protect her. I get the same uneasy feeling from my son-in-laws father too. So is there something wrong with me???? How can I investigate? We know he was aroused once and it was talked about and physical was given. What if it's me?? My mind/my thoughts??? I want to protect her and not give any opportunity for anyone to harm her. I am powerlessView Thread
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