You shouldnt think that way.I was like that to when I 1st found out about 1yr ago.And to tell u the truth I still feel like that sometimes.But you have to trust me,life moves on.Theres no need to feel so disgusted with yourself.Mistakes happen and things happen to the best of us. Its a whole lot easier if you have a best friend or family member you could talk to.When I told my bff I felt better.She helped me out A LOT!!! Try to stay positive,pick your head up and try to keep occupied.You will feel better the sooner you start.You dont have to tell every person you meet that you have HSV2.Thats your business and nobody elses.Take things slow,dont try to jump in or try to have a relationship right away.Learn more about it,learn how to accept and love yourself. XoXoXo..it'll get better!!!View Thread
Ive been dealing with it for over 1yr now.I dont know who gave it to me.The one person who that Ive been sexual the most and the longest I told and he says he doesnt "think" I past it to him because he has never had a break out.Does this mean he might have it and doesnt want to tell me? We still have sex but obviously with a condom. I've had sex with other partners but I have not told them I have HSV2.We use a condom all the time..how important is it to tell that person?Am I wrong for it?Im scared of rejection if I do tell them.I know I would react like that if they told me there infected and I wasnt. Recently my doc put me on Valtrex to "try"it out for a 6mth period.Hypothetically speaking,If I dont use a condom is it likely to pass HSV2 to my partner?
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What do you mean you were told? Who told you and why? If you really dont know for sure you should SO get checked.I wish I was in that position where I didnt have it. It sucks to be with someone and have that consent feeling that they talk about you or maybe they think of you as being dirty.I dont want to go thru that anymore.Its hard being positive and living a "normal" dating life.View Thread
Yes theres been more than just Guy A&B. But I swear I think it was Guy A.But your right,life moves on and it'll move on as soon as I learn how to accept it. Its just hard to accept this is something that will NEVER go away and I will have to deal with it till the day I die.All of my life I have to deal with a mistake I made at some point in my life.What I dont understand is why is it not tested when we go for our yearly PAP? I could of found out a lot sooner and I could of found out Who it was from.
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Your right.I have put myself in there shoes.When I think about it I really get PO'd just to think that someone had HSV and knew about it and had (unprotected)sex with me and passed it to me.I was really depressed when I found out.I had no clue what to do.I was real secluded from everybody.I felt dirty and embarresed.Worst of all I have noooo idea who gave it to me.Is it possible to pass HSV2 with the use of a condom?
You know I did find someone.I met him DAYS before I was diagnosed.So when I found out I told him we shoulndt try to make it work because I felt dirty.But he accepted it.It took us time to have sex,it actually took me more time than him.Even though he accepted mewith HSV2,I was always sooo insecure that he was cheating on me with someone who doesnt have it.It was a constant arguement between us even after he would assure me he wasnt cheating.Eventually we stopped the relationship and became friends.And it kind of just went back in forth until he called everything off.Im scared to find someone else like him.Im greatful he was there for me but he was there at the wrong time.I was still tryin to coop with it.I think if he came back around it would be much more different.View Thread
So we dont get confused I will refer to him as Guy A.Guy A refuses to do it..we only talked about it 1 time.And that was when I was newly diagnosed. I had a sexual partner 2wks prior to being Dx'd,Guy B.We did not practice safe sex.Me assuming Guy B was the one who passed it to me I called right away so he could get checked.Guy B went right away and got checked but it came back negative.Is that possible? I know he went because my best friend went with him to the clinic.So since Guy B's results came back negative,Guy A insists his ''should'' be negative and he doesnt have it.But he refuses to go get checked.Guy A was my 1st.After the first 2 times I developed a yeast infection.And just about everytime after that I would develop yeast infections if we did not use a condom.Sometimes I would get Vaginitis. Hes not the only partner I had but I would use condoms with my other partners and that wouldnt happen.I had 1 yeast infection right before my1st outbreak and sure enough it happen when I had unprotected sex with Guy A.What does all this mean? ~OMG I had no idea that HSV2 increased the risk of HIV.How can that happen?What about when I want to have kids?How does that work?I dont want test tube babies.View Thread
I was diagnosed 1yr ago.I have no idea who passed it to me and as far as doctors,they dont know either.Apparently they only screen for that when u ''experiance'' an outbreak.According to them Ive had it for a while where my body became immune to it..is that possible? I told my partner @ the time and he freaked out but insisted he doesnt have it because hes never had an ''outbreak''.I explained to him even though he has never had one it doesnt mean he doesnt have it.We would never use a condom.Could this mean he gave it to me? I had sex w/no protection with 1 guy 2wks prior to me being DX'd and he got screened and it came out negative.Hypothetically speaking,If I dont have an outbreak,how likely is it that I pass it to my partner? I want to have kids one day but Im scared of infecting him.I still feel bad when I have sex and even a little scared that I might give it to him..what should I do?View Thread