am still waiting for the test results, but i've received a tentative clinical diagnosis of genital herpes. i've been with the same guy since we were both 17-year-old virgins; neither of us has ever been intimate with anyone else. and yes, i am positive that he hasn't cheated.
i've never had cold sores and he says he hasn't either, but his mother apparently has. so the most likely mode of transmission seems to be that he caught hsv-1 from his mom as a kid, was an asymptomatic carrier, and then transmitted it to me via oral sex. and for whatever reason my first active outbreak just occurred 5+ years into our relationship.
i had no idea this was even possible. if anyone had suggested a week ago that i might have an std, i'd have laughed out loud. i feel really alone, and i am wondering if anyone has ever heard of a completely monogamous person with a completely monogamous partner still somehow ending up with festering sores on their genitalia. it was just not something i thought i ever had to worry about, and now that it's happened i am finding myself totally ill-equipped to deal with it.View Thread
yeah, i had blood drawn for the type-specific test in addition to the viral culture, but i'm still waiting for the results. it seems improbable given our history and lack of risk factors, but the nurse said she was "90 percent" certain it was hsv-1 based on the clinical presentation. i'll come back and post after i get the test results; i hope it isn't herpes but i don't know what else it could be.View Thread
i'm very newly diagnosed, struggling with it myself, and not really able to offer advice, but i just wanted to give you a big virtual hug because you sound like you need it. this is not your fault. i don't care if you were drinking, i wouldn't care if you were sauntering naked down a dark alleyway in the middle of the night... you didn't deserve what happened to you, and the only person at fault is the psycho who violated and infected you.
i'll leave the actual advice to more informed posters like abe648, but please, always remember this. you didn't deserve this, and none of it is your fault.View Thread