Hello, I am a twenty-two year old female and have just today been diagnosed with herpes; happy christmas to me huh? I immediately started the Valtrex but as this is my first outbreak I am having trouble dealing with the symptons. I am exceptionally uncomfortable and am wondering if anyone could offer up any suggestions on what to do to make the blisters less uncomfortable? I think that they are starting to pop now (which from my research seems normal??) and I am insanely uncomfortable. So any home remedies or ointments that anybody could recommend I would be SO appreciative.
Also, I think I'm handling this pretty well. I cried a little bit but there's nothing I can do at this point I guess. But I am nervous about telling the guy I'm seeing. He's a great guy and I really like him but I'm almost positive he gave it to me. He's the only guy I've had unprotected sex with in a long time. I'm not resentful towards him but I really have no idea how to go about doing this! Right now we're both home visiting friends/family for the holidays but I'll see him shortly after the new year. Should I wait until the holiday season is over or should I call him up and let him know now?? I just don't know what to do!!
Oh and finally, I'm a bigtime traveler. I oftentimes am out of the country for months at a time teaching English or volunteering; how is this new diagnosis of herpes going to affect me from here on out? Am I stuck in the US forever now? I can't imagine having an outbreak in rural India; I think I would literally want to die. Has anyone had to deal with living with herpes while traveling extensively? I don't want this to rule my life!
Thank you so much. I think I'm still in shock, maybe I'll get upset in a day or two but any advice/suggestions would be absolutely fantastic.View Thread
Thanks for your suggestions abe648, I appreciate it.
I ended up telling my bf over the phone because I just couldn't hold it in any longer. It ended up being a good thing because he said that he had some "razor burn" that wasn't going away. He was visually diagnosed the next day and put on Valtrex. He's definitely going through all of the stages of herpes, though his seems a lot milder than mine. But that could just be him not wanting to tell me everything.
I've shared a lot of the information with him (including the Herpes Handbook) and a few tips I've found online to make him more comfortable. Is there anything more specific to males that you think I should share with him?
Christmas was rough yesterday. The meds make me feel rather sick and sitting down to open presents wasn't too comfortable with my family, but I made it through. Thanks for your help and have a happy new year!View Thread