I would make sure to go to your doctor or a clinic (such as Planned Parenthood, perhaps?) just to have these bumps checked out. If you had sexual contact you want to be sure it's nothing serious. A lot of times things can clear up on their own and still be in your system which makes you capable of passing it to others, so the best option would be to get yourself checked out!
I would make a doctor's appointment. I have had tonsilitis twice in the past and it caused white patches on my tonsils. You should go see a doctor to verify.
In regards to the bumps on your lip and the tingling sensation you're experiencing the only thing left to do is see a doctor or go to a clinic of some sort where you can be seen just to make sure there is nothing seriously wrong. Wouldn't want to leave your health to chance!
Also, I don't exactly agree with the way BLUE_HART40 stated "females can be very nasty", you should practice safe sex while being sexuality active. For oral sex, in the future condoms and dental dams are your best bet, and as for sex...once you decide to have it...CONDOMS!!...but please remember that you can STILL contract diseases using condoms....condoms only cover your penis, and that doesn't count as everything. So talking to your partner prior to sex about STDS should also be done.
So be safe, and I wish you a clean bill of health!View Thread
I was in the middle of an OB and my doctor literally looked for like 30 seconds and said very nonchalantly "oh, this looks like herpes"
she told me she was pretty sure it was herpes and she could do a test to find out if it was HSV 1 or 2, but it didn't matter if it was 1 or 2...it was still herpes....and since I'm not sure if billing for stuff like that will be sent to my parents I decided against finding out if it was 1 or 2.....
Once I'm comfortable enough to tell my parents, I will find out which form I haveView Thread
I'm so sorry someone put your health at risk by not informing you prior to sex that they had HSV.
I think you should consider how you felt when your ex did not tell you he had HSV...you said you hated him for lying to you and risking your health....
I would suggest finding out ALL the information you can on HSV (The Herpes Handbook helped me) and realizing that it's not this scary STD that has to be kept secret....honestly, once you're informed on what HSV is you realize it's awfully similar to the chickenpox (caused by the same virus family as chickenpox actually!) except this affects your genitals and it doesn't just happen once like chickenpox does.
I think you should inform your partner, and future partners that you have HSV AND provide information for them when you tell them(such as the risk of getting it from a partner and how common it is, and exactly what it is)....you need to give people an opportunity to decide what's best for them and if a sexual relationship with you is a risk they're willing to take.
The Herpes Handbook also offers an awesome section on how to talk to a partner about HSV. So make sure to look the handbook up, talk to your partner, and if things go south and this person doesn't want a relationship with you afterwards at least you'll know you did the right thing by telling them,unlike your ex
I had protected sex, the condom did NOT break, and I still got HSV....so I don't think that's an important factor when it comes to HSV, unfortunately!
I know experts say swelling in your pelvic region when youhave an OB is like a sign of your body preparing to fight off the virus or something like that....I did experience this swelling feeling in my pelvis during my first OB....
I think it would be best to definitely see your doctor and try talking to the partner you had sex with to see if they are aware that they could be carrying an STD, because all the research I've read suggest it takes at least 4 days for signs of herpes to manifest!
I'm so sorry to hear you are in so much pain right now, but it does get better! Also, everyone says the first outbreak is the worst and any that follow aren't as bad (I don't know this to be true since I just got over my first OB) during my outbreak I did not look at the affected area...I think looking at it constantly would have made me feel worse or at the very least would not have helped me any to see the blisters.
My family friend told me I need to take time to process what has happened to me and become comfortable with it and learn all I can about it before telling other people....I would suggest the same for you. If your ex husband truly loves you herpes should not stop him from being with you....when you feel comfortable, you should tell him, but also make sure you having information you can give him on herpes. Seriously just the WORD herpes sounds worse than what it truly is.
Not to down play the fact that we have a very uncomfortable virus that we have to deal with for the rest of our lives...but when you have more information about what herpes is you realize it's not horrible. Once you know this, you can tell your exhusband and let him decide if he's willing to take the miniature risk associated with being sexually active with someone who has herpes.... (again, Herpes Handbook was awesome in explaining the risk factors associated with being in sexual relationships post-diagnosis)
Also, the Herpes Handbook talks about how you can tell your partner...so that section would be very helpful for you!
I was also recently (12/24/12) diagnosed with Herpes. I am not sure if I have HSV 1 or 2, but my doctor told me this did not matter. I know how you're feeling because I felt the same. Finding out I have Herpes was definitely more emotionally upsetting than physically painful/damaging for me, but having a family friend who also has HSV as well as HIV, Abe648, and Terri Warren's Herpes Handbook in Abe's signature REALLY helped me realize this is not the end of the world...
While I was experiencing my first outbreak it felt like the end of the world because I was in pain and uncomfortable, could not stop thinking about the fact that I had herpes, and just all the other social implications having herpes would cause for me (I was basically feeling like damaged goods)...and just like you, I've also only had 2 sexual partners and have TONS of friends that have had multiple sexual partners and never even had so much as a pregnancy scare....I guess we're just the luck of the draw.... anyhoo, my family friend put it in perspective for me by letting me know that having Herpes is like having any other chronic condition--such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or a heart condition (except herpes is not life threatening like those conditions)--and it can be managed and you can live a normal life, just like with any other chronic condition (and that normal life does include a healthy sex life as well).
As I see it now after so much support, herpes won't ruin my life, but it does mean I have to be more careful in regards to future sexual encounters (I guess at least I'll always have a topic starter to bring up STDs with future partners now) and I may have to start suppresive therapy and take better care of my body to keep my immune system strong and able to fight back.....
Ultimately, you have to realize for yourself that having herpes is not the end of the world, and perhaps try to see some positives that could come out of this for you. For me, it's motivation to take better care of my body and it will definitely slow me down in the relationship department and take my time in the future to really get to know someone.
As for the physical pain, I was also on acyclovir 3 times a day for 7 days (took my last pill this past sunday) and now my first OB has cleared up. I checked myself and the sores have healed and it no longer hurts to pee or anything like that....I would suggest while you're peeing to try leaning forward or just getting into some position that makes it so the urine is not directly flowing over your sores....this REALLY helped me and all I did was lean forward (sometimes you'll have to lean forward a lot)
also keeping the areas dry and clean REALLY helped. I stopped putting lotion in the affected area while I had an OB and I made sure to pay extra attention to the area while drying off after a shower.
I hope all this advice makes you feel a little better, and I would definitely suggest reading the Herpes Handbook (link in Abe's signature). It made me feel A LOT better and put a lot of this into perspective.View Thread
I did have a good Christmas, I hope you did as well.
The HSV handbook did wonders for making me feel better about having HSV and realizing it doesn't have to be the end of my life/love life. Thank you SO much for having that resource in your signature I'd be lost without it.
Perhaps I'll check out The Good News about the Bad News as well.