I just found out today (Christmas Eve) that I have genital herpes. I contracted it from my second person I've ever had sex with, the first time we had sex this month.
I just want you to know that your posts have truly helped me feel a little better about my situation....The Herpes Handbook is a great resource I will be saving to talk to my family, close friends, and future partners about herpes....
I still question why this had to happen to me, when I used protection, have only had sex with two people, and took all the precaustions I could take....but your words of wisedom and the advice you've given others is truly helpful....
Reading this makes me feel like I'm not alone. I found out at 9:30am on CHRISTMAS EVE that I contracted herpes II from the second person I've ever had sex with two weeks ago when we had sex for the first and only time....I feel the same way you feel...depressed, self-blaming, ashamed, confused....
Except I was lucky to have a family friend who has been through EVERYTHING in her life to talk to. She told me as far as telling my family goes, I should do it at my own pace after I have had time to process what has happened to me.....because technically it's not their business since it doesn't affect them, but they should know. I would suggest the same for you....
Also, as for your boyfriend....I told the person who gave me herpes (he didn't know he had it....) right away so that he could get checked and just take care of any issues related to this...If youre abstaining from sex I guess it would be okay not to tell him until you process it....if you're worried about him leaving I might figure out where his head is right now and just play "what if" with him and suggest "what would you do if you found out an old lover gave you herpes?" or something like that
.....I hope I've helped you out...I'm also looking for someone to talk to, so it would be great if maybe we could talk since we both recently found out....I'm freaking out about this whole "in the first year you may have 4-5 outbreaks" thing....I'm so scared!!View Thread