Any and all advice is helpful and I appreciate you taking the time to offer some. Like you I'm a sociable guy and don't have a need for a dating site under normal circumstances..... that why they made alcohol.... only kidding. Along with my poor taste in humor I do not wish this virus on anyone. As a way to stop at least my passing it along I was wondering if there is a way to find others afflicted with the same thing. I do also understand there is an unreal amount of different strains, however, I'm content with the possibility of picking up a different strain. I've begun to stop hating myself albeit a slow proccess, but a proccess that has begun.View Thread
Well I was trying to send a message of appreciation to both proudmom and carmelita but the webmd gods apparently did not see it fit. I can not relate to you two how much your responses meant but they wers greatly appreciated. Later on I assure you I will try to relate how your post effected (affected?) my outlook. All I can say for now is, thank you, from the bottom of my heart, thank you a million times over.View Thread
looking for a way to find females with hpv as I do not want to spread the hpv virus any further. if there is an outlet to finding others that feel the same as i do or are having trouble finding someone let me know. I know there is a dating site but the charge money and I believe we've suffered enough. I know I'm hesitant to be the face of HPV but I'm thinking of trying to start a website to help "us" and others with other afflictions. if anyone has any ideas or pointers please let me know.View Thread
I think you may be confused live for tomorrow, I dont have herpes (hsv) I have hpv which is genital warts. Our afflictions are totally different. I just wanted to clarify. While our STD's are totally different we share a common bond of a life changing circumstance. I know Ive been told be you and others to seek someone to talk to bebspeaking to people on here is very theraputic. I still am afraid of tell anyone personally and as for finding someone, even before HPV I never really put myself out in the dating scene. I'd also hate to meet some girl and then get close only to get let down like always. I just wish there were a way to meet other with HPV and maybe date that way.View Thread
the only pain I'veexperience is when I get the frozen off. Man parts are already sensitive and freezing parts of it (after the fact) does not feel good. I've never had any pain from the warts. I've had it done three times so far and about the time I feel they aren't coming back they show up. All I know is he classified the wart type as varruca vulgaris. I do understand there are different strains of the Human Papilloma Virus and am currently researching any way to lessen the symptoms such as building my immune system, avoids acidics and taking in alkilines, stress techniques, and various other information. I assume its aggressive or my immune system is low due to a recent stomach aliment I had. I'm glad you were able to tell your friend about it. I'm sure it was nice to tell someone you knew face to face. I however don't have that luxury as I know it would eventually be know by other I wouldn't want to know.View Thread
To clarify it for you lluter, we both were tested for STD's before her and I engaged in any sexual activities. When I first developed symptoms (warts) I went through a period of denial and eventually went to see a doctor where he diagnosed me with HPV and classified the wart type as varruca vulgaris (fitting name). She was the only person I had sexual contact with from the time of the test until I was diagnosed. I was not her only partner at the time we were dating unfortunately, so I'm pretty sure she was the source since she also contracted the virus. Thus far she is the last person I've been with and that's been some time ago. I refuse to pass this to anyone else. Outside of my doctor I've told no one except on these forums under the protection of a screen name to remain anonymous. I'm here as a way to relieve the stress of keeping it in, looking for insight from other on how to cope with this, and offer encouragement to others dealing with any STD issue. Encouragement I can't seem to give myself.View Thread
I've yet to tell anyone. Where I live now everyone knows everyone and things like this haunt people forever. People here are judgmental and whats worse is some around here would actually use that info to try to hurt someone, destroy them in the eye of anyone they can tell. My friends (which are few, I;m well liked by many people but I have a small group of good friends) can't keep secrets and are known to release any big info they know about people, even some of their other friends secrets. I feel like all is lost sometimes. I've been dealing with this well over a year and every morning its like I relive the bad news I got that day over and over again. I don'r want to pass this HPV on either, it wouls devastate me to impact someones life as HPV has mine. I can't tell my family because even though they'd be supportive they'd secretly be ashamed and would feel sorry for me and I dont want that for them. Thats why I'm here though...anonymously put mydeepest shameful secret out there to get help from others of us in similar situations or get encouraged by nice people like yourself. I'll take you up on that offer and if you need a shoulder or an ear I'll be there for you as well. just recieving one reply on my post actually made me smile a bit. Thank you.View Thread
I know there are situations where it has worked out for some people as I mentioned on a young ladies post that was concerned about her dating and her herpes. I'm just one of those people that nothing ever works out. I am determined to one day find "her" however it was hard enough to get a date before the HPV and now its impossible, or so I feel. it was hard enough to even tell my doctor much less tell a woman I have feelings for. As for counseling.... really thats why I'm here. I'm looking for people that have the same issue and similar experiences. Or really anyone as kind as your self that offers encouragement or advice. It is depressing because I robbed myself of many opportunities early on in life with women, good ones and now I've made something difficult damn near impossible. I'm not going to "end it all" over this because I have a special little girl that needs a badass uncle like me. I put up a good front for everyone and most of the time for myself but yes there are moments, bad moments. Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post. It was very kind of you.View Thread
To thank you for offer some sympathetic words on my post I'll do the best I can to encourage you. A mutual friend of mine and my ex (not the one that cheated) that actually introduced us had herpes. She was a very pretty girl that worked as a waitress in a bar I used to frequent. I never knew about it until much later in mine and X's relationship when she told me in confidence because she needed input on advice to give our friend about her relationship. It was a delicate situation that that info was pertinent. I should have realized when a situation with her and a friend of mine had an awkward moment at my place. He was looking to hook up and wanted to but for some reason couldn't. Looking back she wanted the one night stand and saw it as that but knew the risk she posed to him and protected him which is admirable. You could tell it was difficult for her at the time and I just assumed it was one of the mysteries of a woman. She didn't share her reason with him as he did not need to know since she knew he was not boy friend material. Later down the road however as I had mentioned before she was in a relationship. As all couples will experience they had their moments but they were a great fit for each other. I will do my best to relay what X told me of their situation as it should be encouraging for you. They met and hit it off as coworkers, really just good friends at first but later there were mutual feelings that he eventually acted on, or tried to at first. She turned him down with no excuse and it was obviously a painful moment for her. Being that her deeply cared for her and seeing that something was wrong below the surface he attempted to talk about it and get an answer from her. Eventually he backed off and suggested just a friendship. Later on while they were hanging out one night and after some drinks they shared another kiss and upon another weird reaction from her he asked again. In her liquid courage and desire to be with him she told him about her herpes. He was caught of guard by the situation of course but handled it well. Her secret was safe with him but in light of the new information he thought it best to back off that night. It was really a way for him to take the time to think about what he was willing risk to be with her. Next day she was devastated thinking that her secret cost her a man she felt deeply for. She cried all that next day and night over it even cried herself to sleep. She was awoke by a knock at the door at 2 am and it was him. He told her that the only risk he wasn't willing to take was not being with her (I doubt his actual words were close to that but im making a bigger point). Speaking from a guys perspective there are a few of us out there that have hearts. When a dude falls for your heart there isn't much that will deter him. I will admit it takes a strong person to deal with that. It took a while for friendship to turn into a relationship but they did. Anytime she had an out break and the following week there was no sexual contact but they made it work. I dont know how they turned out as I moved after me and the X split up but i know for at least that the time I was there they were mostly happy. Assuming since you're at a university you live in a large town as we did at the time. There could be a benefit to that. Keep your head up. And likewise, if you need some to talk to, I'm a few keystrokes away.View Thread
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