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I'm glad you were able to tell your friend about it. I'm sure it was nice to tell someone you knew face to face. I however don't have that luxury as I know it would eventually be know by other I wouldn't want to know.View Thread





A mutual friend of mine and my ex (not the one that cheated) that actually introduced us had herpes. She was a very pretty girl that worked as a waitress in a bar I used to frequent. I never knew about it until much later in mine and X's relationship when she told me in confidence because she needed input on advice to give our friend about her relationship. It was a delicate situation that that info was pertinent. I should have realized when a situation with her and a friend of mine had an awkward moment at my place. He was looking to hook up and wanted to but for some reason couldn't. Looking back she wanted the one night stand and saw it as that but knew the risk she posed to him and protected him which is admirable. You could tell it was difficult for her at the time and I just assumed it was one of the mysteries of a woman. She didn't share her reason with him as he did not need to know since she knew he was not boy friend material. Later down the road however as I had mentioned before she was in a relationship. As all couples will experience they had their moments but they were a great fit for each other. I will do my best to relay what X told me of their situation as it should be encouraging for you.
They met and hit it off as coworkers, really just good friends at first but later there were mutual feelings that he eventually acted on, or tried to at first. She turned him down with no excuse and it was obviously a painful moment for her. Being that her deeply cared for her and seeing that something was wrong below the surface he attempted to talk about it and get an answer from her. Eventually he backed off and suggested just a friendship. Later on while they were hanging out one night and after some drinks they shared another kiss and upon another weird reaction from her he asked again. In her liquid courage and desire to be with him she told him about her herpes. He was caught of guard by the situation of course but handled it well. Her secret was safe with him but in light of the new information he thought it best to back off that night. It was really a way for him to take the time to think about what he was willing risk to be with her. Next day she was devastated thinking that her secret cost her a man she felt deeply for. She cried all that next day and night over it even cried herself to sleep. She was awoke by a knock at the door at 2 am and it was him. He told her that the only risk he wasn't willing to take was not being with her (I doubt his actual words were close to that but im making a bigger point). Speaking from a guys perspective there are a few of us out there that have hearts. When a dude falls for your heart there isn't much that will deter him. I will admit it takes a strong person to deal with that. It took a while for friendship to turn into a relationship but they did. Anytime she had an out break and the following week there was no sexual contact but they made it work. I dont know how they turned out as I moved after me and the X split up but i know for at least that the time I was there they were mostly happy.
Assuming since you're at a university you live in a large town as we did at the time. There could be a benefit to that. Keep your head up. And likewise, if you need some to talk to, I'm a few keystrokes away.View Thread
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