Don't worry. you can have a normal relationship, you just have to be a little more aware of your body. People with oral herpes do not go the rest of their life never kissing again! or putting dental damns on before they do.
Herpes is a scary word. but it's just a word. Cold sores are herpes. Do people feel they need to disclose cold sores the same way they do Gentital herpes? NO! But they should. The risk is the same, especially in oral sex. In fact, most new cases of genital herpes are caused by oral herpes during oral sex. Plus, herpes is really a mild thing. It affects people less than the common cold.
It's my understanding that lesbian transmission is way less likely than hetero. I wouldn't worry too much. Just maybe get some more info on supressive thereapy. how often are your outbreaks? Theres lots of factors to consider,View Thread